I think the difference is not so much 'where' the line is drawn, but who should draw it.
If the government is doing the drawing, then I think we would all be better off with no lines at all.
Ok, who do you suppose draws it? If you see the neighbor's kid the next morning and think he's gone too far, what happens? He thinks it's okay, you don't, so whoever is stronger wins? Do you find enough neighbors who agree with you to go take the guy down? I'm simply in favor of bright lines being drawn and consequences codified based on popular opinion. Whether it's the evil government you so despise, or simply a community decision, which is in itself a pseudo-government. Children need to be reasonably educated and protected either way. Public schools are an excellent tool to at least attempt this parity. I think vouchers for private schools would be slightly better, but it's still a function of the government taking money from people to give to other people in order to educate their children. Too many people lack the ability or interest to properly educate children and public schools fill that void. Congratulations to you and 88GT and anyone else who takes that effort on their children's behalf. I truly wish that all parents were like that.