Gf switched off

[SEIndSAM]

Threads like this are like watching a train wreck that you know is going to happen...

The bridge is out, you have warned the Engineer that the bridge is out, yet he has doubled down on crossing it...All you can do is pull up a chair, grab some popcorn and wait for the crash to happen...

 

[halfmileharry]

I desire a love like Gomez and Morticia have.

 

[Vigilant]

Remember this thread when you are posting after being released from jail, it's NOT someone else's fault that your relationship is in the ****ter, and you lost your new job because of being in jail!

 

[rhino]

You want to be the White Knight who rides in and saves her from herself. You are the male Florence Nightingale, dating the "fixer upper" so you can "fix them". You can't. It will end badly and painfully. You can end it now. You can end it 10 years from now with children caught in the middle, wasted years of your life, and your own shiny new mental scars from dealing with it all. Or you can end it now.

You cannot save her from herself. You cannot let guilt of "what if she does.... if I leave" keep you trapped. Move on.

Amen. This reads like he wants sympathy and validation while he's being the heroic savior. Perhaps he needs to be the hero. Unfortunately, most of us realize that's not how life works.

So you come here asking for advice, and get almost 100 replies unanimously telling you to run, many of them based on personal experience in similar situations. And your response is "Thanks everyone, but I'm gonna do it anyway."

Maybe the 2 of you are perfect for each other. Crazy loves company.

Probably correct!

Yes. They seem exactly the same to me. They both have a skewed self-concept. They both know, deep down, that nothing will change in the relationship. They both know they are on a path to destruction and, when it comes, they will say they "couldn't help themselves" and "just had to stay because she/he needed me so much."

Ah, the need to be needed. In these scenarios, they eradicate self-preservation.

I desire a love like Gomez and Morticia have.

Now you're talking!

 

[churchmouse]

I desire a love like Gomez and Morticia have.

Well yeah but that is it's own kind of crazy.....

 

[HoughMade]

Well everyone is saying to run but I'm going to try and help her if I can, I know this wasn't her it was the beer and her depression it wasn't her normal self, so if she doesn't want help then it's over, she hasn't had a easy life her father was abusive and left her and her mom so all I can do is try I know she is a good person and needs help, yeah sounds stupid for a crazy girl but I can try

Who drank the beer, her imaginary friend?

En vino veritas- alcohol doesn't change you. It reveals you.

You want to be the hero. I said this earlier. You can't and you won't be.

Obviously, it's your choice. You asked for advice and you have gotten it. Some have been through something very similar...more than once. Some have managed to avoid these issues. ALL ARE TELLING YOU THE SAME THING.

If my son came to me with this, I would tell him to break it off, tell her that you have to break it off because she needs to get help and focus on her before being in a relationship, and pray for her. I would tell my son to do this because it's best for him AND BEST FOR HER. I am telling you the same thing.

 

[churchmouse]

And are we looking at this.......https://www.indianagunowners.com/forums/break-room/424442-my-friends-bf-has-lost.html

 

[halfmileharry]

Well yeah but that is it's own kind of crazy.....

BUT I love redheads so this is the norm for me.

 

[churchmouse]

BUT I love redheads so this is the norm for me.

Oh me too I just learned to avoid them.

 

[Hookeye]

The crazies try to take advantage of men being programmed to fix things.

Don't fall for it.

 

[Hookeye]

Even the ones with good track records can go nuts at 45 and trash a family/finances.

In today's world, a good gal is a severe risk.

 

[Hookeye]

And yeah, redheads are fun.
Size 1 are lotsa fun.

 

[Vigilant]

BUT I love redheads so this is the norm for me.

id pick a soulless ginger everyday of the week, twice on Monday. Unless it was Lovemachine!

 

[hoosierdoc]

I always get sad when serious situation threads turn into goofball and spoof threads

 

[Rookie]

Yeah, but when the OP takes the approach he is, what's left?

 

[Hookeye]

I grew up around strong, smart, attractive and educated women.
No drama.
So like an idiot I thought that was the norm.

I learned long ago it wasn't.
And IMHO today's climate is much more dangerous.

There's simply no d*mn reason to start out with drama. If anything it is to be avoided.
The cost in time, money and effort..........just too expensive.

Life can throw anybody a curve ball, any time.
No sense making your first "at bat" in the bottom of the 9th, behind by 10 runs, with 2 outs.

 

[TB1999]

En vino veritas- alcohol doesn't change you. It reveals you.

I feel like you are adding some words to that translation.

 

[TB1999]

So lastnight me and my gf had a big fight, she suffers from depression so she has been awake all night drinking while I sleep for work, I come home after and she hasn't slept just drank about 30 beers and been chatting of this self help site 7cups of tea, everything is fine I bring her a ride home from work to be sweet and all is good, then she gets in tears over a friend at work she helped and then he turns into a jerk to her and she is crying I tell her not to let this a hole win and don't let it bother her but it doesn't work so I get dinner and she is still upset I aske her to talk to me about it and she won't because she says that I tell my family about her emotions and they "blow it out of per portion" so I say I haven't said anything to them and my family loves her and she goes off on how they judge her? Which they don't so idk what she is saying, she screaming at me all this time while I stay calm and then she switches to our political view and says that I think she is retarded cause I like some of trumps views and she likes Clinton so I wonder how this has to do with us? And she starts packing her bag and yelling at me and cussing me out and at one point calls me a ***** and gets in my face and says hit me like the other guys do, I have never and will never strike a woman, and she goes on mocking me So after that she goes off and I take her home and the drive back was great she cranks up the radio and I turn it down she cusses me out so Keep driving while being deaf, and then she throws her nail polish bottle at my window lucky for her she doesn't break it or she have a long way to walk home, so we get home she slams my door I get out and tell her I just want to talk she comes at me ready to hit me I restrain her wrists and I'll say this if she has hit me I would have no regrets having her arrested let her spend some time in jail, her mom tells me to leave and her get inside and yes she is still very drunk so I leave head home. So that was my fun time with my gf so depressing and alcohol don't mix so who knows what she will do and from what she said we are done and it's my fault? She said, I think she needs to see a specialist and be on some kind of medicine maybe she is bi polar or something. So any opinions would help I'm just venting and angry and upset

So what you are saying is you'd rather buy a 200 dollar hi point and spend a grand on accessories rather than spend 600 on a glock?

 

[Hookeye]

Oh gee whiz, a liberal woman plays the victim.............there's a shocker.

 

[Hookeye]

Out of control with the BF, calm and collected when with a lawyer.
Get the hell away from that woman.

Social media and other.........there's a network of miserable people at her fingertips to help keep her screwed up.
Was bad enough before the web, now it's exponentially worse.

Can't save those that don't want to save themselves.
Tough gig mental illness (if it is that).

So much $ to be made off keeping people sick. Quacks in the psych ranks? Who'd have thunk it?

Even if she and you want to fix it..........seek help.............she might not get it.

GF? Aint worth the risk. Wife? Well there is that better or worse clause.
If no covenant is made...........bail.