I actually went through this situation about a month ago. I believe it was our 3rd date before she found out about it. We were watching something on TV and she made a comment about how she had never shot a gun. I just turned to her and asked her if she wanted to. She said "right now"? I said yeah, then blah blah blah. She is cool with it. I will be taking her to shoot some guns soon. I haven't OC'd around her yet but I only OC about 10% of the time anyways.