Why beat up the guy anyway? He's not the one that broke vows.
To start with he dont have to beat the guy to death right now......he can wait. Secondly, he dont have to beat the guy himself.....there are plenty of people who will do it for you. Make sure you are in a highly visible place with cameras.
Oh.....and tomorrow is my Birthday........Happy F%&#in birthday to me
i let my ex move back in to work things out, she moved back on saturday, and on sunday she said she still loved him, that was on my birthday!
No matter how horrible things may feel in your heart, life does indeed go on and it gets better. No matter how unfair the current moment may appear to be, it too shall pass. Karma does exists no matter how hard it is to sometimes believe in. You will get through this and you will know happiness again.
My X and I dated for two years and was married for 23. It was all officially over in July after a year and a half of legal torment. My marriage had been circling the drain for the last 5 years. Divorce was the right decision for us. I have no regrets.
Although I often struggle with doing everything around the house mostly by myself, I am so much happier now. I am sometimes frustrated with appliances (for the record Maytag and Motorola blow) but my soul is rejoicing in its freedom. I am sometimes overwhelmed with doing everything by myself but I have accepted that I can't always do everything so right now I do not have time for a manicured lawn and weedless flower gardens, maybe next year. Life will still go on if my house isn't spotless. Worry is not my friend so I avoid it. I do my best everyday and hope to accomplish more the next day. It's all I can do. I am at peace with the universe.
I won't lie to you, dating sucks. But I believe my x wasn't meant to be my happily ever after. I don't know if I will ever find my prince but I know I never will if I am not receptive to such possibilities.
Life goes on. My life is different now but it's a good life. I never thought I would be almost 50 and starting over again but here I am. I am happier than I have been in years. My bad dates will be material for a blog or comedy routine at a later date. Even a bad date can make me smile, so it's not a compete loss.
As far as coping with the injustices that have been thrust upon you, music helped me a lot. I discovered Linkin Park, Stabbing Westward, Three Days Grace, Skillet and Thousand Foot Krutch. They put into words the feelings that were trapped inside my head. Play it loud and sing it proud. Sometimes you just need to speak of the hurts to release their hold on you. Surround yourself with positive energy. Avoid negative people and situations.
Good luck. We're here for you if you need us.
PS On the bright side, at this weekend's 1500 I purchased a CZ Rami and on the way home I bought an antique rocking chair. There was no one to tell me I couldn't. Being single has advantages.
Rick,
First, give yourself a decent birthday today. I know it's not "happy" but do something for yourself at least.
You sound like you are following the sensible advice of getting a lawyer. If you think you have a good lawyer, take their advice in terms of anything you should remove from the house. I'm sure it's a good idea to close and/or document accounts so that you aren't taken advantage of but I'm also pretty sure it's not a good idea to attempt to hide any joint property. Hopefully the lawyer has advised you on honest ways to protect your share of the assets. I've been told that judges don't always take kindly to someone who gives the appearance of trying to walk away with marital assets such as hiding cash or claiming they lost something.
To those who want to beat up "the other guy", totally understandable. All legal issues aside, it's a way of dealing with the hurt. The person who cheated on him though is the person that gave him a vow. I'm going to reiterate the benefit of counseling to help Rick move on from something he devoted 25 years to. I know people whose divorce has taken years, especially getting joint assets like homes completely settled. There is probably a roller coaster ahead.
Again, sorry. Keep your chin up. Better times are ahead.
Suggest you turn off computer and call a lawyer. Move whatever money you can out of her control. Consider getting not only your guns, but other valuables out of the house where she can grab them.. My brother's shack job threw him out (our mother owned the house) and among other things stole our fathers Purple Heart. CYA
i let my ex move back in to work things out, she moved back on saturday, and on sunday she said she still loved him, that was on my birthday!
Three of the most significant breakups in my life, and a few other majorly bad things have happened within a week of my birthday. I still get a little nervous around that time of year even though nothing bad has happened in a while.
A picture is definitely worth a thousand words. My X tried to say that he left me almost everything and that was why he was entitled to everything he had taken. I did a picture comparison of the cherry picked assets he took and the crap he left me. He even took the garage heaters that were on the wall and hard wired in, the transformer to the outside pole light, the uninstalled third bay garage door opener and the pump to the fountain. He had to give it all back. His lawyer made him bring it to mediation and return it to me. This made me a believer in Karma.
Also since I was able to prove the assets he took existed and exceeded the assets he left me he had to split the equity from our other house to make things fair. We had initially agreed to all of it in the beginning. His greed and anger just prolonged the divorce and cost him lots more money. Since I fired my attorney my only additional expense was my half of the mediator.
My oldest son passed from Cancer on my "B" day in 02.
This is the 1st year since that I actually acknowledged that day for my birth.
Yeah, tough around that day for me as well.