25 year marriage in the toilet

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Option B

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[PaulJF]

At this point, I think we can stop blaming the ex-wives and start looking at the individual that picked them.

Agreed. And I took 10 years off and worked on my personal issues. I have found the one. I am SURE I am with this one for life. I was convinced and at ease with the idea spending the rest of my life as a single man before we found each other.
For sure the problem was mine.

 

[firecadet613]

The best thing I heard when I was going through some tough times was very simple...but I remember it to this day. "Someone else has been where you are, going through what you are, and they made it out OK."

Keep that in mind.

 

[Mr Evilwrench]

That's what I always used to tell my son when he was having trouble at school: "Millions of people have done this and they got through it. You can, too." Easy to forget that when you're getting your face stepped on, though. I'm sure I've found the right one too

 

[Lectric102002]

I'm on #3. She has told me I'm not getting out of this one alive.

 

[Dosproduction]

Let me give u some advise about the lawyer part. Call and set up interviews with EVERY lawyer possible specially the BETTER ones. Any lawyer u talk to first CAN NOT represent her ,Conflict of interest. Look it up and do it. Will take a lot of time but better safe then sorry as we gun owners know.

 

[HoughMade]

At this point, I think we can stop blaming the ex-wives and start looking at the individual that picked them. ...

That's kind of what comes to my mind when I hear people complaining and complaining and complaining about what a crazy nut their ex spouse is.

 

[shootersix]

friends and family...and ingo is both!

 

[Mr Evilwrench]

Mine actually had an undiagnosed personality disorder, so I'm kind of exempt from that.

 

[mom45]

Mine actually had an undiagnosed personality disorder, so I'm kind of exempt from that.

Mine committed suicide on the third try. I think he qualifies for being referred to as having serious issues. I was young when I met him and honestly was pretty naive about mental illness. I am far more educated on that now!

 

[remauto1187]

My ex is nuttier than squirrel shi^. It is true just like I had always heard before... SHE is going to grow up to be JUST LIKE her mother. Her mother belonged in a padded room!

Ever heard of a woman going to a funeral of a woman she did not even know and did NOT even know anyone there! That was how nuts her mother was.

 

[remauto1187]

Another thing to think about. ANY money or valuable items that can be converted to cash CAN and WILL be used to pay for a lawyer against you if accessed by your newfound opponent!

 

[mom45]

Perhaps we need a "My Ex is Nuttier than Your Ex" thread to continue this competition!

 

[remauto1187]

Perhaps we need a "My Ex is Nuttier than Your Ex" thread to continue this competition!

You definitely got me beat with your story! BUT .... I can pee farther than you!

 

[mom45]

You definitely got me beat with your story! BUT .... I can pee farther than you!

I might have to concede to you on that one!

 

[pute62]

Trust me.........They opened at 9, I walked in the door at 9:01

Guide your hired lawyer to this thread so they can confer with those who know the best way to proceed.

 

[Mr Evilwrench]

Yeah, I came home to mine carving on herself once. She didn't live long enough to succeed, though. One way or the other, she was checking out. I resisted at the time, but I've come to realize it wasn't up to me and fighting it was a lose. I resented it, our son suffered, but ultimately we were both better off. As crass as it sounds, the crazy was so bad we would still all be miserable.

 

[gungirl65]

My advice to singles of childbearing age is to avoid the crazy people. You can't fix mentally ill with a bandage of pills and wishful thinking. Depending on the illness there is a high likelihood any children born from the union will also be mentally ill. My first rodeo was way worse than the last and thankfully it was very brief. I swam in the pits of hell and I survived.

I was only 16 and he was was 25...... it just gets worse from there. Anyway, he was bi-polar, manipulative, paranoid, abusive and just plain evil. He had so many other children from other young girls like myself that he seldom saw our daughter after the divorce. Even though I loved and nurtured her, she still grew up to be very much like him. They share similar delusions of their alternate made up lives. They share the same types of paranoia and irrational abusive outbursts and behavior. It was almost as if my daughter's humanity diminished when she hit puberty.

My daughter played a role in my decision to divorce the last x. I don't know what is true or false, all of the players are pathological liars looking for an excuse. I just don't want to play with any of them anymore. I washed my hands of them all. The little girl I raised vanished long ago.

So in summary, my crazy cup overflows but life goes on. I have every excuse to be just as pathetic as they are but I chose to rise above the torment and move on without them. I don't need their BS and I don't need their excuses. Luckily one of the blessings of getting older is that bad memories fade fast as do the thoughts of the players.

There are a lot of sordid details I have left out but my point is that no matter what we have experienced, life goes on whether or not we chose to participate.

Watching my mom fade away with Alzheimer's helped me to find the strength to make my unpopular decisions. Life is too short to to waste it being miserable or just comfortable. I wanted to be happy, so I made changes. Although I am still disorganized from it all, I am most certainly happy now.

 

[Tactically Fat]

That's kind of what comes to my mind when I hear people complaining and complaining and complaining about what a crazy nut their ex spouse is.

To HiJack the thread a bit: My mother-in-law had been married five times...and was engaged to be married again. Of the first set of five, though, one guy she married twice. That guy she married twice is also now on his fifth...

My MIL was....unique.

 

[HoughMade]

Perhaps we need a "My Ex is Nuttier than Your Ex" thread to continue this competition!

Go for it! Although it might as well be entitled: "I make horrible decisions- here's the proof."