Many in this thread throw things about as "proven" or "fact" when they are far from proven as facts. These things may be possible, they may even be likely or probable, but they are far from proven/certain/factual.
As someone uninvolved in the discussion, I just get the impression that you guys are coming at this from two different directions. When we common layman read some of this stuff (supposed school reports, police reports, stories from supposed witnesses, etc.), we regard it is as fact (especially if it supports the narrative we believe). For you and other lawyers, nothing is a fact unless adjudicated as such. At least that is the impression I have.