Yes. And I am sure the fear of loosing touch is heavy in her mind. It would be in mine.You're not over the line at all my friend! I agree with everything you said. And Susan does see (and feel) the stress that the boys are putting on us both. She's worried that she won't get to see them if he moves them to California. I've reassured her that she will be able to fly out whenever she wants, and with enough advance planning it's not that expensive. She was used to having to go out there at the drop of a hat when Amie was still alive, so of course tickets and lodging were all at a premium.
And I also agree that the boys deserve better than having two old grumpy people trying to raise them. They need someone that can be fully involved and engaged with them, and that takes someone younger than us. And boys should have their father in their lives.
I have often wondered if we could step in and raise the terrorists if (God forbid) something happened to require this.
All I can say is no. We could not especially now. And that hurts my heart mote than I can say.
I pray this all finds the best ending for those boys. We no longer matter. Just them.