you just need to learn how to flip the switch. i heard a story about a marine lt that put it best. no better friend, no worse enemy, or some such.I always try to put myself in the officers shoes, and frankly I think, with my current mindset and training I'd probably act like they do. I'd operate under the assumption that you are a criminal until proven otherwise, for no other reason than I would want to come home to my family every night.
These officers need to be called on the carpet and trained better. I just find it hard to judge their actions when I know I'd probably react the same way.
ive modified the golden rule to treat others how they treat me. i wouldnt respond to someone cussing me up one side and down the other with sirs and maams, but at the same time i wouldnt go out of my way to be a prick to someone who was being straightforward and easygoing with me. im not a cop, but i apply the same school of thought to inmates.