Shunning by Anti-gun Family

[Dirtebiker]

No matter what, RESPECT YOUR MOM!
Mine doesn't like the fact that I have a gun on me almost all the time, even commented negatively about my future son-in-law and I carrying in a church this morning. (I asked if she had ever heard of anyone being shot in a church, she said no. So now I have to dig up articles for her to read)
I think we are slowly winning her over to the dark side, but it's a slow process. (my father was murdered when I was a baby, I think she has been anti-gun ever since... Almost 50 years ago!)
Anyway, we only have one Mom! Be nice! Show her how a responsible gun owner acts, and maybe she will come around eventually.



And I call new guns "new toys" too!

 

[Lex Concord]

Family or not, life is too short to put up with heads due to societal norms.

If the relationship is important to you or those you care about, work to smooth the waters.

If it isn't, tell her to go **** up a rope and move on with your life.

 

[IndyDave1776]

Be patient. You didn't do anything wrong, you simply are thinking and living outside of mom's box and she isn't comfortable with it. I may well take a long time for her to adjust. I bought my first handgun in 1994 and it took her at least ten years to get adjusted to the idea and I don't think she was ever comfortable with it. Whatever you do, don't let this became a wedge issue. Mom can't run your life, but it doesn't have to be an ongoing problem, and if you let her deal with it in her own time, she probably will move away from making an issue out of it.

All parents come with their issues that we could do without, but unfortunately we often don't realize how insignificant these issues truly are (albeit most irritating at the time) until we are forced to consider them in their unvarnished form. On the Tuesday after Christmas my mom dropped of a heart attack about 6 feet from me. Preaching her funeral was the most difficult thing I have ever done deliberately. Needless to say, this put me in a head-on collision with the fundamental issue at hand which is managing to accept those we love in spite of their irritating habits and behaviors. Once again, be patient. If you can manage this at minimum your mom will get over this temporary trend of seeing a gun that is holding her sweet, right-thinking child hostage and imparting wild ideas of the scariest form. Give it six months of your new gun not compelling you to engage in criminal behavior and mom's perspective should start changing, but once again, it is a process. Whatever you do, don't wait for circumstances to force you to put things in perspective.

 

[SSGSAD]

I guess that I am lucky, I got my Dad into guns, but Mom, made him get rid of them, B4 they moved to Fl. I lost Dad, in 2002, and miss him... Mom is still kicking, so I am thankful everyday, that she is around... I do what I want, because there is no one around to tell me not to... All B4, here is good advice, don't lose family members, over differences, just do what YOU can to get along. Once they are gone, they are gone till we join them...

 

[cobber]

Family is fickle and you only have one mom. Tell her you prefer to be called English now and you keep your ammo in the sugar jar. Bonus points if you know what I'm referencing.

I think it was a flour jar...

And where did they put the gun-of-the-hand?

OP, be nice to your Mom!

 

[686 Shooter]

So, I posted a pic of a new gun on Facebook and called it my new ''toy." Did I make some kind a faux-pas that I am not aware of as a newbie? Most people appreciated and praised my new acquisition, until I got a text from my mom, who doesn't call or visit often and apparently has no knowledge of our new hobby, and desire to protect our family. (Her husband is a vet.)

She asks if I think it's funny to call a gun a toy, why did I think it was necessary to have one, and do I know that no one wants to come over to my house anymore if they know I have a gun.

Does everyone else have to deal with family like this?

Do you warn everyone that comes over to your house? Should you tell the parents of kids coming over for a playdate, even if everything is ALWAYS locked up in a big safe?

Let's analyze this situation.

Having a gun ("toy") = not a bad thing

Having a Mom (no matter how opinionated) = not a bad thing

Having a Facebook account = must be the bad thing (Quit posting anything but the kids pictures on facebook.)

 

[Bapak2ja]

You house, your rules. The others make their own choice. Just make sure you keep the weapons safe and secure at all times. No one wants an ND to hurt a child or an adult.

 

[Bapak2ja]

Let's analyze this situation.

Having a gun ("toy") = not a bad thing

Having a Mom (no matter how opinionated) = not a bad thing

Having a Facebook account = must be the bad thing (Quit posting anything but the kids pictures on facebook.)

What he said!

 

[davedolli]

She is your mom so respect her, but also remember you will have your toys for as long as you want but probably not your mom.

Dave

 

[burt gummer]

I know how u feel when i bought my new xdm 45 i was so happy and i told my brother i bought it for target shooting i stupidly trusted him big mistake, he told my sis who flipped out and called my folks and they made me get ride of it, my whole family thought i was angry thats why i bought the gun, really i took gun classes and "leagaly" bought the gun ya im angry lol stupid. Im getting my gun back soon from my friend, ill be sure to protect them ya right let them get robbed why should i protect them im angry right, anyway be happy ur mom wont bug u again

 

[Kutnupe14]

So, I posted a pic of a new gun on Facebook and called it my new ''toy." Did I make some kind a faux-pas that I am not aware of as a newbie? Most people appreciated and praised my new acquisition, until I got a text from my mom, who doesn't call or visit often and apparently has no knowledge of our new hobby, and desire to protect our family. (Her husband is a vet.)

She asks if I think it's funny to call a gun a toy, why did I think it was necessary to have one, and do I know that no one wants to come over to my house anymore if they know I have a gun.

Does everyone else have to deal with family like this?

Do you warn everyone that comes over to your house? Should you tell the parents of kids coming over for a playdate, even if everything is ALWAYS locked up in a big safe?

"You're doing it wrong"

I'm sorry, but this comment irked me. For pete's sake, complaining that your mother (or any other parent), "doesn't call or visit often?" Are you kidding me? It's YOU, the child, that should be doing the calling and visiting.......often.

Geez, me and my crazy Southern sensibilities.

 

[Hookeye]

If your mom never calls or visits, then she's not meddling in your affairs/complaining.

Always a bright side

 

[squish]

To put it in perspective.....


Guns kill people......



















































and spoons made Rosie O'Donnell fat.

 

[repeter1977]

No matter what, RESPECT YOUR MOM!
Mine doesn't like the fact that I have a gun on me almost all the time, even commented negatively about my future son-in-law and I carrying in a church this morning. (I asked if she had ever heard of anyone being shot in a church, she said no. So now I have to dig up articles for her to read)
I think we are slowly winning her over to the dark side, but it's a slow process. (my father was murdered when I was a baby, I think she has been anti-gun ever since... Almost 50 years ago!)
Anyway, we only have one Mom! Be nice! Show her how a responsible gun owner acts, and maybe she will come around eventually.



And I call new guns "new toys" too!

Here is one shooting at a Temple in Utah
Utah Local News - Salt Lake City News, Sports, Archive - The Salt Lake Tribune

Of course, everyone remembers the recent one in Michigan. Here is the recent shooting involving the Amish in PA. Just in case you need proof that it happens to those that dont believe at all in violence
Amish Shooting Victim Begged to Be Shot First to Save Others | Fox News

Here is one where a "Christian Extremist" killed over 70 people in Oslo. Could be the person sitting next to her in church.
Christian extremist allegedly behind Oslo shootings | GlobalPost

There are just a few, after a 10 second search. Im sure you could easily find others. Church is no longer the safe haven it once was.

 

[mlzoiss]

"You're doing it wrong"

I'm sorry, but this comment irked me. For pete's sake, complaining that your mother (or any other parent), "doesn't call or visit often?" Are you kidding me? It's YOU, the child, that should be doing the calling and visiting.......often.

Geez, me and my crazy Southern sensibilities.

Sorry, I wasn't really complaining. I try to be polite and respectful, but it's hard for me to be around her and her husband very often, so I guess it works out. I don't always succeed at the respectful either when I get riled up, but that's what the confessional and an earnest promise to do better is for.

 

[TopDog]

I have some family that is opposed to guns and personal safety. Below is a excerpt from the original OP and how I would respond in red.

She asks if I think it's funny to call a gun a toy, (I think you are funny for asking) why did I think it was necessary to have one, (Why don't you think it's necessary to have one) and do I know that no one wants to come over to my house anymore if they know I have a gun. (That is fine, I know enough people that are not sheep or professional victims that I won't miss them. )

 

[Electronrider]

5 pages of "This is why you don't post stuff like that on Facebook".

Anyone that I know well enough to invite into my home, knows I own firearms. Those that are concerned are welcomed to examine how I safely store my firearms in a safe. Those that hold an irrational fear of firearms ( Hoplophobia for those who want to know what it is called) can simply choose to either educate themselves to reality, or let their irrational fear rule their life, and not come to my home.

 

[Jack Burton]

So, I posted a pic of a new gun on Facebook and called it my new ''toy." Did I make some kind a faux-pas that I am not aware of as a newbie? Most people appreciated and praised my new acquisition, until I got a text from my mom, who doesn't call or visit often and apparently has no knowledge of our new hobby, and desire to protect our family. (Her husband is a vet.)

She asks if I think it's funny to call a gun a toy, why did I think it was necessary to have one, and do I know that no one wants to come over to my house anymore if they know I have a gun.

Does everyone else have to deal with family like this?

Do you warn everyone that comes over to your house? Should you tell the parents of kids coming over for a playdate, even if everything is ALWAYS locked up in a big safe?

Moms say lots of things when they get excited, and 99 percent of the time it's blown over in a few weeks.

Don't bring the subject up, don't sweat it, and the issue will probably disappear all by itself.

Those who have said you only have one mom are correct. I'd give most anything for another hour with my parents. Guns are guns, freedom is freedom, but mom trumps them all.

You can't let her rule your adult home, but you can be sensitive to her needs also. It's a balancing act, and no one ever said adult hood was easy.

 

[Ted]

"You're doing it wrong"

I'm sorry, but this comment irked me. For pete's sake, complaining that your mother (or any other parent), "doesn't call or visit often?" Are you kidding me? It's YOU, the child, that should be doing the calling and visiting.......often.

Geez, me and my crazy Southern sensibilities.

He never stated that he didn't. He merely made a statement of his Mother's tendencies.

Secondly, he may be HER child, but he is not THE child. If he were A child, he wouldn't have a firearm, would he?

 

[Ted]

.....Does everyone else have to deal with family like this?

Yes. Everyone has a whack job in their family.

Do you warn everyone that comes over to your house?

No. Its none of their business.

[text=purple]They don't warn you that they might have a Bible in the house, or political literature, or medication such as Viagra or Percoset.[/text=purple]

Should you tell the parents of kids coming over for a playdate, even if everything is ALWAYS locked up in a big safe?

For the same purple rationale above, firearms aren't the only potentially dangerous items in your house.......and I suspect that most households have those same items.

It is, as you indicated, your responsibility to secure said items from those visiting your home. It is also others responsibility to do the same, when visiting their home.