Agreed that you are better off not arguing. You wont change their mind, just as much as they wont change yours. After a recent discussion with my father, it was brought to my attention , something that happened 20 years ago that I had totally forgotten. My college roommates dad ( in a heated discussion with my dad) was upset that my girlfriend ( now wife) had moved into our apartment. He was quoted as saying multiple times " My kids would never do" this or that to multiple extents. In the next year his 3 perfect children had all broken his word for him. One had a child out of wedlock, one knocked up a 15 year old girl ( he was over 21 ) , and his youngest daughter was hospitalized with bulimia. Just never say never. We had a discussion about how animate I am against abortion , except in the case of rape or incest. He kindly reminded me of the story, and the fact that I have 3 kids of my own , 2 of which are girls. I hope I am never in that situation, as well as I hope you aren't either.