hotfarmboy1
Grandmaster
And I could use some advice from my fellow INGO'ers. This story is kinda long but I tried to shorten up what I could. What do you think I should do?
Well its a long story, but I'll try to shorten it some. A friend of my g/f's got in a bad car accident and was in the hospital and told she probably wouldn't make it. So she wanted to go see her friend. But last time she was at her parents for some doc appts her brother took her wallet out of her purse and put it in the glovebox of one of their cars, so she didn't have her license here to drive up there, didn't know this till days later. While I was at work Thurs night (the night she found out about her friend) she talked to another friend that was a mutual friend of the one in the hospital. She couldn't take my g/f up there, had to work. But she had a friend that probably could, so she gave this guy her number. He called and they set up for him to take her up in the morning, originally before I got home. She was going to drive her car in to the Elwood library to meet him there and leave her car there. I talked to her as soon as I got off work and told her to go back home and I'd take her in. She finally agreed. At this point I'm worried as heck and offered to take her up myself even though I needed to work on the car. Which is why she didn't think I'd take her up, and why she said she set up the ride. She thought if I didn't let her go that I was being too controlling, not realizing that I was just worried and didn't want her to get hurt. Even though I told her that multiple times. But I at least wanted to meet this guy and get some info. Well he had made a fake profile on FB and its with that he had become friends of her friend. When I met him he gave me a name, address, and phone number. Which I had a feeling were fake when he told me he couldn't remember the zip code, and when I asked for his license so I could confirm it, he fumbled around for a sec then said he didnt' have it with him. I don't know why I went ahead and let her go. But I did at least go ahead and write down the license plate number. After seeing this guy and his truck I remembered what she had told me a guy that had been stalking her looked like, and what his truck looked like. Someone that was a FB friend of hers. So I got on the comp as soon as I got home and ran the info, nothing came back matching as far as I could find. So I got on FB and on her friends list and found that guy. IT WAS HIM!!!!! The same guy that somehow found out where I lived, and said multiple times he was gonna stop buy when I was at work to see her. Its the reason I taught her to shoot, and trained my dog for in the house. Well after I found this out she just happened to call me a bit later from a bathroom at a DQ. I told her what I found and that I was suspecting her of cheating. But when I mentioned his name you could hear nothing but fear in her voice cause she was so scared of him. She called her mom and told her to be sure she was home when they got there. She made it to her parents safely. Then her mom came up with an idea to get him to leave and her stay there. It worked. Then I headed up there to get her myself. After having no sleep working the night before. She looked at her facebook again, and yes that was him, I was right (of course, I"m always right) and that fake profile had already been deleted. She has now deleted her old FB account and making a new one, along with told him to leave her alone, she doesn't want to talk to him anymore, cutting off all ties. Then I added that if he ever tries to contact her again I now know what both him and his truck look like and he will answer to me if I see or hear from him ever again.
I know this was very long. I tried to shorten it up but just couldn't do much. She just doesnt' have any common sense, had a very sheltered life growing up. And she has now learned she needs to listen to me more. I hate that it took something like this happening to get her to learn that. But at least she has learned it now. I'm still really questioning now whether we are going to work out or not though. Been arguing alot lately. And part of me doesn't trust her right now since she set that up with him, and then fought me so much on me meeting the guy and getting his info. Any thoughts and ideas?
Well its a long story, but I'll try to shorten it some. A friend of my g/f's got in a bad car accident and was in the hospital and told she probably wouldn't make it. So she wanted to go see her friend. But last time she was at her parents for some doc appts her brother took her wallet out of her purse and put it in the glovebox of one of their cars, so she didn't have her license here to drive up there, didn't know this till days later. While I was at work Thurs night (the night she found out about her friend) she talked to another friend that was a mutual friend of the one in the hospital. She couldn't take my g/f up there, had to work. But she had a friend that probably could, so she gave this guy her number. He called and they set up for him to take her up in the morning, originally before I got home. She was going to drive her car in to the Elwood library to meet him there and leave her car there. I talked to her as soon as I got off work and told her to go back home and I'd take her in. She finally agreed. At this point I'm worried as heck and offered to take her up myself even though I needed to work on the car. Which is why she didn't think I'd take her up, and why she said she set up the ride. She thought if I didn't let her go that I was being too controlling, not realizing that I was just worried and didn't want her to get hurt. Even though I told her that multiple times. But I at least wanted to meet this guy and get some info. Well he had made a fake profile on FB and its with that he had become friends of her friend. When I met him he gave me a name, address, and phone number. Which I had a feeling were fake when he told me he couldn't remember the zip code, and when I asked for his license so I could confirm it, he fumbled around for a sec then said he didnt' have it with him. I don't know why I went ahead and let her go. But I did at least go ahead and write down the license plate number. After seeing this guy and his truck I remembered what she had told me a guy that had been stalking her looked like, and what his truck looked like. Someone that was a FB friend of hers. So I got on the comp as soon as I got home and ran the info, nothing came back matching as far as I could find. So I got on FB and on her friends list and found that guy. IT WAS HIM!!!!! The same guy that somehow found out where I lived, and said multiple times he was gonna stop buy when I was at work to see her. Its the reason I taught her to shoot, and trained my dog for in the house. Well after I found this out she just happened to call me a bit later from a bathroom at a DQ. I told her what I found and that I was suspecting her of cheating. But when I mentioned his name you could hear nothing but fear in her voice cause she was so scared of him. She called her mom and told her to be sure she was home when they got there. She made it to her parents safely. Then her mom came up with an idea to get him to leave and her stay there. It worked. Then I headed up there to get her myself. After having no sleep working the night before. She looked at her facebook again, and yes that was him, I was right (of course, I"m always right) and that fake profile had already been deleted. She has now deleted her old FB account and making a new one, along with told him to leave her alone, she doesn't want to talk to him anymore, cutting off all ties. Then I added that if he ever tries to contact her again I now know what both him and his truck look like and he will answer to me if I see or hear from him ever again.
I know this was very long. I tried to shorten it up but just couldn't do much. She just doesnt' have any common sense, had a very sheltered life growing up. And she has now learned she needs to listen to me more. I hate that it took something like this happening to get her to learn that. But at least she has learned it now. I'm still really questioning now whether we are going to work out or not though. Been arguing alot lately. And part of me doesn't trust her right now since she set that up with him, and then fought me so much on me meeting the guy and getting his info. Any thoughts and ideas?
Gotta do what ya gotta do.
