Dealing with breakups

[rambone]

Without getting too far into it... I could use some encouragement.

How do you overcome the depression and move on?

My whole world just fell down on my head. =(

 

[IndyGunworks]

Thats a tuff one man.... I broke up w/ "the one" several years ago, and she was always at the back of my head no matter what.... its a hole that can only be filled by you.... i suggest trying to find something that you enjoy to do in your free time to keep your mind off things at least for the first couple weeks.

 

[Fletch]

Drown your sorrows in an 18-year-old waitress.

 

[IBTL]

I've had a couple of break ups in the past which were pretty bad. I did the WRONG thing by drinking away my pain. After hitting rock-bottom, I found a friend that I knew and could trust and I married her. It took some time to move on. I encourage you to make this process as fast as possible, cause depression can wreck your life and hurt others you love. Take it from me.

Good luck man.

 

[public servant]

Drown your sorrows in an 18-year-old waitress.

I was thinking more along the lines of a librarian...with glasses...but a waitress works as well.

 

[Andre46996]

Let's hit the strip clubs!!!

There are more out there don't worry about it.

 

[shibumiseeker]

Almost a decade ago now my wife walked out with no warning. We'd not been having any problems, and I'm not an unobservant kinda guy. She found a better deal and took it. We'd only been together for three years but it was the first relationship I'd ever had end without it being somewhat mutual or without a whole lot of discussion. Just one day she says she's leaving and 2 days later her stuff is all gone.

It took me almost a year to regain equilibrium. First couple of months were the hardest. Living way out in the middle of nowhere there's not much in the way of dating opportunities or support groups.

I did find a local church that hosted Divorcecare and it helped somewhat. The religious side didn't do anything for me but the fellowship of recently divorced folks did.

Beware of forming any type of serious relationship in the next few months. Rebound relationships are easy to get into and very often bad in the long term.

 

[360]

Seriously, if you're sure it's over, the above mentions of immediately hitting another are not bad ideas. Women are a dime a dozen. (Good ones however, aren't.)

Stay away from the drownings.

 

[shibumiseeker]

Oh, and EXERCISE. A lot. That's the biggest way to fight depression. It may be hard to get motivated to get up and do anything, but it's the best mood lifter you can do and will help break the depression.

 

[eldirector]

Uh, go shooting?

Seriously, concentrate on some "me time". (well, you, not me). Hang with friends, spend some time on hobbies, and find at least one thing you have wanted to do (and put off) and go do it. Time is the healer, not the things.

I, personally, wouldn't worry about women for a while. Let the next one find you. Besides, wimmins is the debil anyways......

 

[snapping turtle]

Get you a slump buster. Move on and UP from there.

Spring is just around the corner and that the time the love blossoms. Work out stay away for the bars and strip clubs. I have had many of the ones. I to spent time drowning sorrows in a bottle. Not a good thing,

 

[LEaSH]

I paid for the marriage license, so I pretty much own mine.

In all seriousness rambone, It will just take some time. Nothing comes easy, companionship, friendship, etc. all of those things are to be valued and difficult to arrive at with another person.

 

[bdj357]

What I did was bought a Kimber Custom Target II, I nicknamed her (the gun) the "word used for female dog".

Shooting makes me happy!

 

[Fletch]

Oh, and EXERCISE. A lot. That's the biggest way to fight depression. It may be hard to get motivated to get up and do anything, but it's the best mood lifter you can do and will help break the depression.

 

[IndyGunworks]

Do you have a dog? Might be a good time to look into getting a pet.

 

[Blue Tile Spook]

INGO. Lots and lots of INGO.

Don't pull away from friends.

 

[femurphy77]

Drown your sorrows in an 18-year-old waitress.

DUDE!!!!! She needs to be at least 21, then you don't have to worry about the liquid panty remover, er I mean Tequila getting you in dutch for serving to a minor.

On the original question, can't help. I'm the one that dropped the "D"bomb after 23 years. It feels like a second chance

 

[IndyMonkey]

Better now than 10 years and 3 kids later.

Wrap your head around it's time to move on. Get there and the rest will come.
What ever you do keep your head up.

 

[printcraft]

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Beware of forming any type of serious relationship in the next few months. Rebound relationships are easy to get into and very often bad in the long term.

Q F T

I don't care how tough you are you are in a fragile state right now and
jumping at the first bunny on the rebound is a bad idea.

Ask me how I know.
Been the friend and done that multiple times over.

Good thing was I did not feel like eating for a couple of months and I did lose weight!

A new one will pop up out of the blue, they always do.

 

[samot]

DUDE !!!!! BUY a new gun Not a ruger 10/22..... or some run of the mill mass produced firearm , by something EVIL & Black