a) take them trick-or-treating, but with full control of the candy bucket. Assuming the kid is old enough to understand NOT TO TOUCH anything until I [STRIKE]eat [/STRIKE]check it.If you had a child like with that condition, what would you do?
Here's a good way to approach the situation without being a totalitarian busybody. You do the work yourself rather than tell the entire neighborhood to do your job for you.
I'm curious. We're friends with a family where a child has a VERY serious, very real, very diagnosed, very found-out-about-it-in-a-really-close-brush-with-death peanut allergy.
If you had a child like with that condition, what would you do?
Here's a good way to approach the situation without being a totalitarian busybody. You do the work yourself rather than tell the entire neighborhood to do your job for you.
Seriously though, for trick-or-treat, if the child is old enough to understand, I'd just explain the reality of the situation. He/she could still participate but the child would have to understand that no candy could be consumed. Probably I'd trade whatever the kid got for something the kid could enjoy.
I certainly wouldn't comply with being shamed into depriving 99.9% of the neighborhood kids of the joy that is Reece's Peanut Butter Cups. It's up to parents to protect their kids. The responsible thing to do is, to TAKE responsibility for your own kids. Kudos to these parents for doing that.
In an ideal world, the neighbors would all know each other, be friends with each other, and look out for each other. This mom is trying to get to the last element, without doing the tricky first part of the equation. I get that.
But in today's world, how many of us really know our neighbors like that? Beyond neighborhood Facebook social media? I don't.
This mom doesn't let social norms get in her way of protecting her kid, and you have a problem with it?
"Totalitarian"? Seriously, for asking people to try to help her not end up in a hospital at her kid's bedside? She has no authority other than an photocopied sheet stapled to a power pole, yet people are offended? Or is this more of a ridicule factor. Fun to make fun of the [strike]dude OCing[/strike] mom as being paranoid?
In an ideal world, the neighbors would all know each other, be friends with each other, and look out for each other. This mom is trying to get to the last element, without doing the tricky first part of the equation. I get that.
But in today's world, how many of us really know our neighbors like that? Beyond neighborhood Facebook social media? I don't.
We talk about protecting our families every day here in INGO. We go to sometimes wildly fantastic scenarios to describe how far we would go to protect Our Own. This mom doesn't let social norms get in her way of protecting her kid, and you have a problem with it?
"Totalitarian"? Seriously, for asking people to try to help her not end up in a hospital at her kid's bedside? She has no authority other than an photocopied sheet stapled to a power pole, yet people are offended? Or is this more of a ridicule factor. Fun to make fun of the [strike]dude OCing[/strike] mom as being paranoid?
I'm curious. We're friends with a family where a child has a VERY serious, very real, very diagnosed, very found-out-about-it-in-a-really-close-brush-with-death peanut allergy.
If you had a child like with that condition, what would you do?
How do you know her only strategy is this "passive" one? Granted, maybe it is and her kid will be dead by Monday, solving the problem for everyone. Who knows.She chose a passive "Don't do this" approach rather than sitting down with the kid and going through the candy. What's good for her kid isn't necessarily what needs to be dictated to every other kid in the neighborhood.
True dat.Lastly, for all we know, these could both be fake and just posted to the internet to spark debate. Who knows.
I HAVE a child with a severe peanut allergy. She was taught what not to eat and check ingredients. If in doubt throw it out. We went through her candy.
She is alive!
She is in college now and I still ask her if she wants me to make her a peanut butter sandwich for school.
Just the risks of being in my family.
But seriously, can you understand why a mom would do something like post flyers in the neighborhood?
Well done. So, you're saying kids with peanut allergies are more likely to go to college?
But seriously, can you understand why a mom would do something like post flyers in the neighborhood?
Welcome to INGO, where people's word choice is a frequent issue.Honestly, I think it's the choice of words.
What blame? I mean, that is where the candy came from."Comes home every year devastated that he can't eat any candy he's collected at your homes"
Laying the blame on everyone else
Or a plea for help including her kid."Don't exclude my child..."
Victim complex, blaming all neighbors of hating her kid now
And yet, isn't that what most of the posts here have been about? How she's doing it wrong?"Practice responsible parenting"
You're all ****ty parents. Here's how you can be better at it.
So it is a matter of style. You don't like HOW she said it, not why she said it?Those are the problems I have with Exhibit #1. A kinder, gentler request would have been better in my book.
Goes to style, not parenting.Noteworthy: There's not a single "please" anywhere to be seen on Exhibit #1.
I'm not even commenting on her list of "approved candies". The whole thing just stinks of a Tumblr-ite. Responsible parenting is what you do to your child, not what you lay on the rest of the neighborhood.
I would serve nothing but peanuts if I saw one of these in my neighborhood.
Not saying it does. Still not sure how asking for help - even rudely - constitutes bad parenting. Maybe she is a hot mess of a parent and doesn't do all the other things printcraft mentioned. We don't know.As serious as the allergy may be, the world does not revolve around that child.
That's ****in hilarious. You ever been by your kid's hospital bedside and the doctor tells you the next couple hours are going to be touch-and-go?To quote Louis CK: “Children who have nut allergies need to be protected… of course, but maybe…if touching a nut kills you…you’re supposed to die.”
Defense Exhibit A:
"Your honor, my client is an idiot!"
I guess that's the thing. Is posting this absurd?My style is to often respond to perceived absurdity with spite.
But seriously, can you understand why a mom would do something like post flyers in the neighborhood?