SavageEagle
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- Apr 27, 2008
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Didn't you and your wife live together for some time before getting married recently? Was this the way of things before you got married, or is this new? From my reading of your previous (before this thread) posts on your life, and this is my completely amateur take on things, I'm thinking you and your new wife are a bit too comfy with you staying home, taking care of things there and her working outside the home.
Maybe it's time to shoulder the cost and burden of childcare, and you go back to working outside again. I know that amount of daily separation and shared responsibility for keeping the home going when both are working seems to help keep the keel even in a marriage. Just some thoughts...but if you're feeling this way a lot, you need to change the way things are so it doesn't ruin everything in just a short while.
We lived together 5 years before we got married. The fights and arguements actually calmed down dramaticlly since I gave in and married before I wanted to. I wanted to be financially stable before marriage and kids, it just didn't happen that want.
I would go back to work, but consider I will have to make more than 450/per week for it to do any good whatsoever. I have 4 kids, 2 of which are not yet school age. It's now summer and school is not a factor. 4 kids, all in daycare all week. That equals about $400 per week. Check the daycare places for average pricing. Then there's gas to and from work everyday. To find a job paying at least that much I will be driving probably into or across Indy. I drive a V-6 that gets crappy mileage. About $40-50 per week. That's only breaking even. I'd be working, for all intensive purposes, for free. Not my idea worth my time away from my kids.
I don't have any problem working my butt off. But if I must be away from my kids, it had better be worth my time financially.
I should also point out my resume isn't the most desirable which has got to be why the jobs I do apply for pass over me. Especially with the economy in the crapper and everyone looking for work.