Spoke with Principal, who in turn spoke with superintendant. I was given 2 options to handle this. File a formal complaint with superintendant, in which case they would also have to "punish" me for having words with the coach at school and telling him ( which I confessed to to the principal) that his actions were bull****, and he was a piece of **** for humiliating the kids. I cursed at school, (not in presence of kids mind you) so I would probably be banned from attending a couple of games or something.
Second option was informal handling, principal tell me I couldn't curse at the school and speak my mind to the coach. He would also talk to him and explain his actions are unacceptable, and pics need to be deleted.
I choose the second option, if, the coach would admit his wrong doing and apologize to the kids. Spoke briefly to my son this evening, and there was no apology. Looks like we may end up having to take the first option. Ex spoke to coach this evening, his comment to her was he made them hold the dolls and such, to let them know he isn't their babysitter. I will speak with principal again tomorrow, see what coach said to him.
At this point though, after talking with son, and ex, looks like I may now have to make the decision if it is worth missing some of his games to teach this guy a lesson, and future coaches for that matter.
What makes it more difficult, he has the "name" and I don't. It will turn political. Decisions, Decisions............I am now debating, if he doesn't think what done is humilating, turning it in to a spectacle, and getting the media involved. Make all the administration, along with him look like fools........
I have other ideas how I would like to handle it, but better keep those to myself!!!!!!!
The options given to you were the principal's way of sweeping it under the rug. Go over his head. File a complaint on the coach AND the principal. Let them know that you can make this a very public issue.
As for you being punished. Really? After school detention? Seriously, that speaks volumes on how flippant the principal is being about this. He's trying to downplay the problem by passing blame onto you.
A few years ago, I had an issue with an attendance counselor mistreating my daughter. We sat down with the principal and tried to work it out. When he threatened my daughter, I completely lost my cool. We were nose to nose, I was calling him EVERY name in the book, and I was seconds away from going to jail for assault. The principal stepped in (fortunately), apologized for the counselor's actions, and we resolved the issue. The counselor was replaced the next week. I never received detention either.