gonna air a little dirty laundry, but I'm looking for advice.
My brother and I have a history of fights, nothing too over the top especially for syblings, used all sorts of improvised weapons in the past when we were like 6-14 then a few years of peace through high school and after. Things like rooms and chairs were common but always ended the confrontation with just one whap or two. All but a few of these altercations started around household chores and whatever kids fit about really, no big deal. The discussions always went to arguments, he would bring up past events, and then try to make fun of me. I would say something that dug a little deep and he'd try and hit me. that was how most fights between us got started. he still looks back ( he is nearly 21 now) as though I chased him down and beat him for no real reason, and I can assure you I have never really beat him, I can't honestly recall ever hitting him with a closed fist. Most of the time I just wrestled him into submisson. After all its my brother, I don't want to hurt him, but I'm not gonna take a beating either. He also still holds a lot of resentent from my parents divorce, he is still mad about alot of things my parents did during and after the divorce, and only got worse after the divorce as I stepped up into the "dad" role alot of times. ( this is a just a little backround for additional insight)
but recently we had an event that has me on edge and I'd like to get some advice. We are both hard pressed for money as neither of us have been working since april and our lease is up. My dad who has basically lived with his girlfriend for the last 8 years only is at his place to mow the lawn, cut wood, and work in his shop, offered to let us move back to his house. THis helps us get back on our feet, gives us a cheaper place to live as we have been traveling for work when we worked over the last year, gives me a safe to house my guns and gets someone cheacking our stuff on a daily basis, ( a nice feature when you are working 16 hours away) but as my dad has rarely been in his house over the last 8 years it is in need of some TLC and lots of cleaning. Sunday we went to to make another trip to clean, toss stuff that needs disposed of and just get ready to move in. My sister and her boyfreind went with us to help, and we were out by the burn pile. I tried to motivate my brother as I didn't want to be there all night. It was 9 o clock and I had to get up at 4 to head to lafayette to teach. My brother got mouthy and like a good older brother/construction worker/ welder, I got motuthy back after a few words he finally said he couldn't find some tools. I informed him that they were alreay inside when for when he was ready. as he alked towards the house he pinched my chest. SO I kicked him, kinda half hazardly in the front of the leg. He goes into a rage and pulls out his 26 asp brand baton and comes my way. I have thankfully started to learn Escrima over the summer, so this wasn't as bad as it could have been. As an ASP can cause alot of damage in trained hands. I have some bruises on my side, my wrist is bruised and I have a bloody spot on my left eyeball. I ended up pushing him toards my dad's truck and about the time I pushed him into the brush guard MY sisters boyfreind came behind him and putt him to the ground.
I have been carrying my J fram in the front hip pocket and took it out earlier as a groundhog lives by the driveway on my dads property and I often see it whe I pull in. but when he came at me with the asp I reached for it. when I felt it wasn't their I stepped in and blocked, then started to just defend my self. I also reached for my pocket knife but decided to just defend as this is my brother. Now on the surface have know problemn If someone comes at me with a weapon I'm going to defend my self with equal or greater force, as I don't like pain. Now I understand fully that It all could have been avoided by not kicking him, but I am gonna use the " he started it line. because physical contact started from him, not out of reaction/ training I went to draw a gun because someone came at me with a weapon. Had I drawn my gun in that situation I would have stated to retreat ( to gain distance) would have issued a warning ( not the greatest plan I know) , and then fired. In this case shooting my brother, intentionally and on purpose with the goal of stopping an attack.
Any one have advice, legal or otherwise, experiences that trip you up a little? etc. I would be appreciated. because Again, My brother attacked me with a metal baton ( asp) and I almost shot him. IT is botherint my right now, and I still don't know what to do, if he came at me once, what will stop him from doing it again, the next time an argument breaks out?
My brother and I have a history of fights, nothing too over the top especially for syblings, used all sorts of improvised weapons in the past when we were like 6-14 then a few years of peace through high school and after. Things like rooms and chairs were common but always ended the confrontation with just one whap or two. All but a few of these altercations started around household chores and whatever kids fit about really, no big deal. The discussions always went to arguments, he would bring up past events, and then try to make fun of me. I would say something that dug a little deep and he'd try and hit me. that was how most fights between us got started. he still looks back ( he is nearly 21 now) as though I chased him down and beat him for no real reason, and I can assure you I have never really beat him, I can't honestly recall ever hitting him with a closed fist. Most of the time I just wrestled him into submisson. After all its my brother, I don't want to hurt him, but I'm not gonna take a beating either. He also still holds a lot of resentent from my parents divorce, he is still mad about alot of things my parents did during and after the divorce, and only got worse after the divorce as I stepped up into the "dad" role alot of times. ( this is a just a little backround for additional insight)
but recently we had an event that has me on edge and I'd like to get some advice. We are both hard pressed for money as neither of us have been working since april and our lease is up. My dad who has basically lived with his girlfriend for the last 8 years only is at his place to mow the lawn, cut wood, and work in his shop, offered to let us move back to his house. THis helps us get back on our feet, gives us a cheaper place to live as we have been traveling for work when we worked over the last year, gives me a safe to house my guns and gets someone cheacking our stuff on a daily basis, ( a nice feature when you are working 16 hours away) but as my dad has rarely been in his house over the last 8 years it is in need of some TLC and lots of cleaning. Sunday we went to to make another trip to clean, toss stuff that needs disposed of and just get ready to move in. My sister and her boyfreind went with us to help, and we were out by the burn pile. I tried to motivate my brother as I didn't want to be there all night. It was 9 o clock and I had to get up at 4 to head to lafayette to teach. My brother got mouthy and like a good older brother/construction worker/ welder, I got motuthy back after a few words he finally said he couldn't find some tools. I informed him that they were alreay inside when for when he was ready. as he alked towards the house he pinched my chest. SO I kicked him, kinda half hazardly in the front of the leg. He goes into a rage and pulls out his 26 asp brand baton and comes my way. I have thankfully started to learn Escrima over the summer, so this wasn't as bad as it could have been. As an ASP can cause alot of damage in trained hands. I have some bruises on my side, my wrist is bruised and I have a bloody spot on my left eyeball. I ended up pushing him toards my dad's truck and about the time I pushed him into the brush guard MY sisters boyfreind came behind him and putt him to the ground.
I have been carrying my J fram in the front hip pocket and took it out earlier as a groundhog lives by the driveway on my dads property and I often see it whe I pull in. but when he came at me with the asp I reached for it. when I felt it wasn't their I stepped in and blocked, then started to just defend my self. I also reached for my pocket knife but decided to just defend as this is my brother. Now on the surface have know problemn If someone comes at me with a weapon I'm going to defend my self with equal or greater force, as I don't like pain. Now I understand fully that It all could have been avoided by not kicking him, but I am gonna use the " he started it line. because physical contact started from him, not out of reaction/ training I went to draw a gun because someone came at me with a weapon. Had I drawn my gun in that situation I would have stated to retreat ( to gain distance) would have issued a warning ( not the greatest plan I know) , and then fired. In this case shooting my brother, intentionally and on purpose with the goal of stopping an attack.
Any one have advice, legal or otherwise, experiences that trip you up a little? etc. I would be appreciated. because Again, My brother attacked me with a metal baton ( asp) and I almost shot him. IT is botherint my right now, and I still don't know what to do, if he came at me once, what will stop him from doing it again, the next time an argument breaks out?