Thank you alot of this is being brought into consideration, and I'm working with familyto try and resolve this peacfully, and in a lasting way, but at this point I really just see a whole of anger and hurt coming from him. HE will probably hate me for a good while, as he has always been the victim in every situation and this will be no different. The problemn with this whole ordeal is that he doesn't understand or feel remorse for his response, He to a verbal disagrement and made it physical, hen escalated to using a deadly weapon unprovoked. Being brothers ignored, that is not an appropriate response, in any situation.
We get it, he is an ***. He is also your brother. That is a tough bind. And many, many people are in jail due to being in that bind and making a momentary bad decision that can never be unmade.
Don't put yourself in that circumstance. Just don't. If that means missing thanksgiving, so be it. If it means moving out, so be it.
You will not change him, you cannot. All you can do is decide if you are going to be there anymore.