alwalker84
Sharpshooter
This weekend I needed to go to Bradis to pay on a layaway for a gun. It was my weekend to have my daughter, so i took her with me. I didnt think twice about this (she is 7). Anyway, after she returned to her moms house yesterday evening of course she interrogated her like Gibbs off of NCIS on what we did this weekend. My daughter mentioned that we went to a gun shop....Well, her mom flipped and called me with plently of piece of mind on the subject. I didnt want to start an argument, so I gave her my short opinon on it, let her talk and then we got off of the phone.
So, this morning I thought it would be a good idea to email her and assure her that my daughters safety is mind and that I she knows that guns arent toys, dont touch em...blah blah blah. I let her know that I planned to get her a .22 rifle in the next year or so and that I wanted to teach her all of the safely rules of firearms handling etc. etc. I made the case of how I keep them locked up when she is around except my sidearm, and even took pics of my safe and sent them to her for more comfort. Well I got this responce, and now I dont even know what to say or do from this point on...
From: Baby momma (lol)
Allen,
Let me first say I do appreciate you sharing all of this with me. I still do not feel 100% comfortable with (my daughters name) being around guns let alone learning how to shot them at such a young age. I understand that children should be taught the proper way to handle guns and learn that they are not toys. I do not think she needs to learn how to use them to be able to be taught the fundamentals and safety of guns. On the other hand I have aloud (my daughters name) to be in activities that interest me and it seems like guns are an activity that you are interested in. I would feel more comfortable for if (my daughters name) was not taught how to shot or handle guns until she is at least in middle school if not high school when she could have a clear understanding of what she is doing and then can make a decision on her own on whether or not this is something she is comfortable with. I understand that Indianapolis is becoming a dangerous place and even (her husbands name) has made mention of possibly looking into getting firearms.
Also as far as (my daughters name) having her own gun does not make me comfortable at all. I know that you would lock it up and make sure that she is being safe with it, but still as her mother this just doesn't sit well with me. Like I said before what she chooses to do after she is 18 is her business and maybe that is something that she can get later on down the line, I just never thought about her having a gun especially not at the young age of 7 or even before she got out of elementary school. I am still trying to figure out what would be a good age to get her a cell phone (thinking 12 or 13 middle school age)
For you to understand my position a little better-- I was raised without learning how to shot a gun, I knew that they were not toys and I know the dangers that could potentially come with using guns. My dad has always had a gun in our house not locked up. I found it one day I didn't touch it I left it right where it was. My grandfather carried and had a gun in his house as I was growing up. I knew where it was located and I even saw him grab it from time to time. I think that I have turned out okay without know how to shot and or have a gun and to this point I have had no real need for a gun. It had never crossed my mind to even have this conversation with (my daughters name), besides teaching her gun safety. When she told me that she went to the gun store with you my heart stopped for a moment because I was shocked that she was exposed to this. I have to believe that you have (my daughters name) best interest at heart so I am going to trust your judgment with this. Please understand that (my daughters name) is my baby and I may be a little over protective with her. That is why it is good for children to have two parents because people think differently. I just would ask with any activity that you do with (my daughters name) we discuss it first or you could just let me know what you are doing. I try to always let you know that I have signed (my daughters name) up for different activities or ask you what you think about her doing certain activities. I would just like for you to do the same with me. Because I think if (my daughters name) were to come home and tell me that she shot a gun without me having any prior knowledge that she was going to do this I would probably have a mini heart attack ( and we wouldn't want that.)
I just hope that you can see where I am coming from with on this topic. I just think certain topics and activities are age appropriate. There will come a time when she will also have to learn about safe sex, drugs, and many other topics some of which I already go over with her, but definitely at her level where she is right now. I guess that is kind of where i am at with her knowing and learning about guns. I just feel like right now she just needs to know that guns are not toys and safety precautions that come along with guns especially since you have them in your house.
Again I appreciate you letting me know about the gun safety that you are practicing and showing me pictures so that i can see how they are kept safe in your house. I just ask that you keep me posted on any gun activity where (my daughters name) is concerned.
Thanks
Baby momma
What now... Am I wrong to disagree? Is she too young?
So, this morning I thought it would be a good idea to email her and assure her that my daughters safety is mind and that I she knows that guns arent toys, dont touch em...blah blah blah. I let her know that I planned to get her a .22 rifle in the next year or so and that I wanted to teach her all of the safely rules of firearms handling etc. etc. I made the case of how I keep them locked up when she is around except my sidearm, and even took pics of my safe and sent them to her for more comfort. Well I got this responce, and now I dont even know what to say or do from this point on...
From: Baby momma (lol)
Allen,
Let me first say I do appreciate you sharing all of this with me. I still do not feel 100% comfortable with (my daughters name) being around guns let alone learning how to shot them at such a young age. I understand that children should be taught the proper way to handle guns and learn that they are not toys. I do not think she needs to learn how to use them to be able to be taught the fundamentals and safety of guns. On the other hand I have aloud (my daughters name) to be in activities that interest me and it seems like guns are an activity that you are interested in. I would feel more comfortable for if (my daughters name) was not taught how to shot or handle guns until she is at least in middle school if not high school when she could have a clear understanding of what she is doing and then can make a decision on her own on whether or not this is something she is comfortable with. I understand that Indianapolis is becoming a dangerous place and even (her husbands name) has made mention of possibly looking into getting firearms.
Also as far as (my daughters name) having her own gun does not make me comfortable at all. I know that you would lock it up and make sure that she is being safe with it, but still as her mother this just doesn't sit well with me. Like I said before what she chooses to do after she is 18 is her business and maybe that is something that she can get later on down the line, I just never thought about her having a gun especially not at the young age of 7 or even before she got out of elementary school. I am still trying to figure out what would be a good age to get her a cell phone (thinking 12 or 13 middle school age)
For you to understand my position a little better-- I was raised without learning how to shot a gun, I knew that they were not toys and I know the dangers that could potentially come with using guns. My dad has always had a gun in our house not locked up. I found it one day I didn't touch it I left it right where it was. My grandfather carried and had a gun in his house as I was growing up. I knew where it was located and I even saw him grab it from time to time. I think that I have turned out okay without know how to shot and or have a gun and to this point I have had no real need for a gun. It had never crossed my mind to even have this conversation with (my daughters name), besides teaching her gun safety. When she told me that she went to the gun store with you my heart stopped for a moment because I was shocked that she was exposed to this. I have to believe that you have (my daughters name) best interest at heart so I am going to trust your judgment with this. Please understand that (my daughters name) is my baby and I may be a little over protective with her. That is why it is good for children to have two parents because people think differently. I just would ask with any activity that you do with (my daughters name) we discuss it first or you could just let me know what you are doing. I try to always let you know that I have signed (my daughters name) up for different activities or ask you what you think about her doing certain activities. I would just like for you to do the same with me. Because I think if (my daughters name) were to come home and tell me that she shot a gun without me having any prior knowledge that she was going to do this I would probably have a mini heart attack ( and we wouldn't want that.)
I just hope that you can see where I am coming from with on this topic. I just think certain topics and activities are age appropriate. There will come a time when she will also have to learn about safe sex, drugs, and many other topics some of which I already go over with her, but definitely at her level where she is right now. I guess that is kind of where i am at with her knowing and learning about guns. I just feel like right now she just needs to know that guns are not toys and safety precautions that come along with guns especially since you have them in your house.
Again I appreciate you letting me know about the gun safety that you are practicing and showing me pictures so that i can see how they are kept safe in your house. I just ask that you keep me posted on any gun activity where (my daughters name) is concerned.
Thanks
Baby momma
What now... Am I wrong to disagree? Is she too young?