What would you do if your child was spanked at school?

[traderdan]

It is never ok to spank you kids!

Incorrect! Wrong answer...The real mistake that parents make (IMO) is that they pitty patter around in spanking a child so that they only anger the child. I have two good kids that are almost grown now,but they knew that if they pushed it to the point of a spanking it was going to be a memorable event. Corporal punishment needs to be used in our school systems.

 

[RedneckReject]

It is never ok to spank you kids!

Maybe it's not okay for you to spank your kids. That's your decision and that's fine. My decision is different. If my children do something that warrants a spanking, they will receive one. I got my fair share when I was a kid. I deserved every last one of them. I never thought of myself as an "abused child" and I still don't. My parents were correcting my behavior the way they saw fit...and it worked. Now don't get me wrong...I'm not going to beat my kid because he or she spilled something on the floor or dropped a glass and broke it. In my opinion, accidents aren't something that deserves punishment. However, there are some things that do.

 

[Fordtough25]

spank him a few more times..

honestly I would talk to the teacher first to get his side of the story. If the story is how you say, my son will be beat again at home.

Same here! I think lots of kids act the way they do these days because people were too easy on them growing up. I'd say sorry for my childs behavior and thanks.

 

[ViperJock]

Kids get handled with well...kid gloves... as school nowadaways. My brother has a kid that is a discipline problem at school but not at home. Why? who knows exactly, but my brother thinks that the kid knows there are no consequences for acting badly at school. He keeps telling the principle to punish the kid but all they want to do is send him home all the time. Lets see, Kid talks back, Kid gets to go home.... Yep, lesson learned.

 

[MrsGungho]

Kids get handled with well...kid gloves... as school nowadaways. My brother has a kid that is a discipline problem at school but not at home. Why? who knows exactly, but my brother thinks that the kid knows there are no consequences for acting badly at school. He keeps telling the principle to punish the kid but all they want to do is send him home all the time. Lets see, Kid talks back, Kid gets to go home.... Yep, lesson learned.

I remember in High School I was given the option of 1 whack or 1 day suspension. I asked if it was in or out of school suspension. Principal said whatever I wanted. I went home. Yeah that worked out real well, it didn't stop the behavior it was supposed to, it just made me more careful to not exhibit it on school grounds.

 

[Hotdoger]

I am a grandparent and I know all my grandaughters teachers and any staff AT SCHOOL THAT DEALS WITH HER.
We all do and take turns picking her up. We see all of them on a daily bases and interact with them.
I sent my kids to a private school for the intimacy of knowing all of the staff and students. Granted not all parents can budget this or care for the program but we went that way. ANY, and I do mean ANY issues were reported to us first hand.
They did not paddle but were stern enough.

My kids go to public school.
We know their teachers , aides, administrators, classmates and even the janitors and lunch room servers.

It does not take a private school to have the ability to be involved.

 

[Hoosier Cowboy]

I'd wait and see if he could still sit down once he got home from school. If he could the paddling wasn't enough! His a$$ would then be paddled again properly and all his fun things like laptop,phone,video games,IPod and so on would be gone for a month or two.

 

[beararms1776]

Depends on what the rules are and what constitutes a paddling.

 

[indiucky]

In this situation, I'd whip him again. I got paddled probably once a week from 3rd grade through junior high, and I turned out fine. Relatively speaking, of course.

Remember Mr. Besslers aluminum paddle!!! I got licks from Mrs. Howard in Art class seventh grade and that was my first taste of Socialism and mandatory sentencing.

Me- "Mrs. Howard, all witnesses state that I didn't start it and I only responded after being pushed to the limit and my response was tepid at best considering my arms are the width of Spaghetti. So why are we both getting three licks?"

Mrs. Howard- "Because three licks is what I give to someone for disrupting the class. I apply all things equally."

Mrs. Hatfield was witness. Mrs. Howard had some arms man.


In response to the OP...It sounds to me like all things were handled properly.

 

[Que]

I see your point about teachers not being strangers, but if a family friend smacked my kid we would have words.

Hopefully nobody would "smack" you kid, because that sounds like a slap and I don't slap people. Also, do you really mean family friends or are you talking about family associates?

I also see another aspect of this discussion that hasn't been addressed. I have a 10-year old who still get a few swat across his butt every now and then. If he came home and told me that he was swatted by his teacher for not doing homework or anything else, I would probably talk to him and find out what happened and then proceed to swat him again. Why? Because I know my son.

Now, my daughter is 15 and hasn't had a spanking since she had her first one at three years old. If she came home and said she was swatted at school, I would have to get to the bottom of it. I would speak with the teacher and everyone who witnessed the incident. If I determined she was in the wrong, I would talk to her, but most likely she would tell me if she deserved it before I left the house, so I would probably let it go at that point. Why? Because I know my daughter.

 

[Suprtek]

Que, I agree with you for the most part. I also know my kids and I know/knew their teachers. However, in a situation that calls for physical punishment I would still prefer a call from the school. If the situation warranted it, I would leave work to go to the school and deal with it personally. In a situation where the act was personal against a teacher such as this one, I would probably have that teacher present while I administered discipline myself. This would not necessarily be to give satisfaction to the teacher, but to provide a more meaningful lesson to my child. I have multiple reasons for wanting to be personally involved when it comes to physical discipline. While it is important to have that type of trust in those responsible for your child, it is also very important to me for my child to know that no one should lay a hand on them in that way without my personal real time involvement. I want them to know they will not be spared just discipline, but they will be protected from those that may choose to do otherwise. As far as I'm concerned, no amount of trust in a person outside of family is enough for me to give to them what I feel is my personal responsibility. In a way, it would also be discipline for myself. Most times (not always) behavior such as this indicates some kind of failure or oversight from a parent. Why should I expect someone else to take responsibility for something my personal failure may have created? Even if I have what I believe to be explicit trust in someone, it is still my child. I would always be wondering if the physical discipline given was appropriate or not.

When it comes to raising children, there is no guidebook that can tell us exactly what to do in every situation. For those so inclined, the Bible can be used to provide principles to guide your life and your decisions. However it is still up to the individual to make those decisions regardless of what they are based on.

On a more personal note, I've met your son. I seriously doubt you will ever face the situation you describe.

 

[Rocket]

I received Wacks from my elementary principle 2 times. Once I did not feel I deserved it once I totally deserved it.

I would get the teachers side. Then personally meet with the teacher with my kid and make them apologize. As a society we are failing our children by not disciplining them. Look around rotten kids are everywhere in stead of few and far between like when I was a kid. I tell my kids. "I am not here to be your friend, I am here to make sure you grow up safely and respectfully" when we are all adults we can be friends.

 

[88GT]

It is never ok to spank you kids!

Correct. It is never okay for you to spank my children. It is, however, okay for me to spank my children.

My kids go to public school.
We know their teachers , aides, administrators, classmates and even the janitors and lunch room servers.

It does not take a private school to have the ability to be involved.

But it does take a private school setting for the parent to have any say in what goes on at the school. Oh, sure. It's possible that in some public schools the administration/teachers are amenable, even encouraging of, parental input. But they don't have to be. And there is no consequence to them if they aren't. It is a matter of luck and chance, not policy, if a public school allows parental input.

Private schools are much more sensitive to parental satisfaction since dissatisfaction often leads to loss of tuition dollars. Public schools have no fear of such consequences. Monopolies rarely do.

 

[Bill of Rights]

I praise God we have good kids.

With all due respect to the Almighty, if you have good kids, Que, the praise for that is due to the parents that have taught them and raised them properly.

Blessings,
Bill

 

[ocsdor]

I would report the school to CPS just like the school does to me everytime my son tells his teacher that I spanked him.

 

[jd42k]

I'd be certain to take his video games and give him some extra chores.