Bingo. Now you get it. Follow the money.No arguments from me CM. By "good guy" I just meant that he seemed willing to get involved in the boys' lives at first. Then it morphed into him being willing to take custody and responsibility for his kids (still good). Where it went sideways was when he started accusing Susan and I of screwing them up in the 3 1/2 months that we had them, and their mom who had them the balance of the time out in California (which we had nothing to do with). Everything was civil until he took them shortly after New Year's Day. Then a switch got flipped.
Susan thinks he got their mom's SS check and saw the money and started seeing them as his little cash cows.