Sounds like she's just latching on to something you like, to push you away. Therapy man, therapy
This is one suspicion of mine also.
Another may be that your wife may have been talking with several of her friends. They collecively decided that your wife must make you get rid of your guns because of some feelings that they have on the matter.
Since this wasn't an issue before, there is some new motivation for it. I would not underestimate the power of your wife's friends to influence her or her using this as suggested above, a way to push you away.
I feel for you, but I strongly urge you to get to the bottom of it, it is not merely the firearms.
Best regards,
Terry
This is some good advice. My wife experienced early menopause after her historectomy.The doctors didn't warn us about it, and it nearly cost us a marriage. The hormones were causing huge amounts of unfounded mistrust. It was the roughest point in our marriage. Good luck!Sorry to hear about your situation. I feel for you man. This question is in all sincerity and not trying to be a wise guy, but is she starting menopause by any chance? You said you've been together for 20yrs so it might be about that time for early menopause to begin. Again I'm not trying to make a joke about it at all. I've seen some women have some crazy thoughts and do some crazy things once that begins, my ex for example. In the mean time I hope that you don't need a gun at home for anything. You need at least one at home for HD. Again. in all sincerity, good luck.
Rep to everybody for your help. I just needed to vent for a while, but I'm over it. I'm not sure what I will do, but a cheap apartment is starting to sound pretty nice.[/COLOR]
Now, my daughter... My 7-year old son...
Now, my daughter... My 7-year old son...
Those words end all "easy out" thoughts.
I was sitting in my office last night, surfing INGO and my wife came in and sat on my lounger. After 20 years, I know when she is coming to sit and when she is coming to "talk." Well, she sat down and went on to tell me about how my guns scare her. We've been through this before and I was prepared to hit the ceiling, but I held off. She went on to tell me about her dad cleaning a gun and accidentally shooting her uncle in the shoulder.
Now, like I said, we've been together 20 years and I've never heard this story! Anyway, the guy didn't die and it couldn't have been that serious since it hasn't been brought up in 20 years! She went on to tell me how she took a bullet to show-and-tell and got into trouble in school. Somewhere in there she told me about a dream that I had words with my son (presently 7), during his teen years and I shot him in the back of the head.
Now, my wife is a very smart, intelligent and intellectual woman. She has book smarts as well as decent street smarts, but this is the DUMBEST CRAP I have ever heard in my life! I couldn't even get past the fact that she would insist on castrating me like that. Also, using a dream about me shooting my son?!
I have put a lock on my office door to ensure the children can't get in. I keep all my guns in a locked safe, in a locked office, but that's still not good enough. Bottom line, I'm tired of going around this mountain and I have packed up my safe, guns, ammo, cases, and holsters to go sit in a friends' basement! I will keep my EDC, but I won't bring it into the house.
I can't describe how I feel and what I wish could happen, but I won't put it on the internet. I just don't know how to get through to her that a gun is a defensive weapon that should be possessed by any real citizen. I'm without words and just had to vent for a minute. This is a woman that has never nagged me about anything! I feel like going into the freakin' mountains for a few weeks just to clear my head.
I'm done. Please, no purchase offers. I'm not selling anything, but I'm still looking to trade my M&P .45 for a G22. https://www.indianagunowners.com/forums/firearms/101602-m_and_p_full-size_45_a.html
Well, I brought my wife into my office and we talked about the whole situation. Bottom line, I had started to acquire a great deal of guns and using family money to do so. I was spending a great deal of money on ammo and it was showing up on the debit card and I was spending more time at the range than I should have.
We talked it out and I will be selling some of my guns. However, she is not insisting that I get rid of them all, but just some. She even likes the idea of having a gun in the house and my being able to protect myself and family, if necessary. So, I will be having a sale as soon as I get pics done. And, get this, she wants to go to the range with me, this week!
Thanks to all of you for your great advice. I was frustrated and without reading these posts, I certainly would have made the wrong move. I'm glad to know there wasn't a trust issue, but just a time and fiscal management issue. So, I guess I will not be getting the G22, but I will be getting her a special .22 target pistol.
Just curious...She even jumps when she sees ammunition. I just think I'm getting played and I don't like it.