I wrestled with asking this i am not one to ask for advice often but i feel kinda stuck on this one. So i know i am new but here we go.
I was at my inlaws a few of months ago "mother in law and her husband my wife's step father". They have a fair amount of family functions at there house my wifes siblings and other family members normally show up so it was a full house. So i know her step father is a big liberal anti-gun type so i don't carry in his house i leave it in the car.
On this functions my brother in law "married to my wife's sister" and i were talking about playing paintball. After a couple of minuutes the father in law called my name and gave me the hand across the next gesture from across the room. At this point i thought we where being loud i was not happy with the gesture but i continued our conversation at a lower volume. At this point he gets up and tells me and the brother he want's to see us outside, we follow him and he starts going off saying "he has known three people that have died from guns and he will not allow guns to even be discussed in his house etc, etc". So with my tounge bleeding i went back inside told my wife to get her stuff and we left.
I decided it is his right to say what he wants in his house and its my right not to go back.
Well here we are months later the mother inlaw and wife have cried, bribed, and everything else to get me to come to these events i finally gave in on the Christmas holiday and the tension was pretty thick. Im not sure how where to go from here i stand on my beliefs but not wanting to be the "jerk" of my wife's family i ask wat would you do?
I was at my inlaws a few of months ago "mother in law and her husband my wife's step father". They have a fair amount of family functions at there house my wifes siblings and other family members normally show up so it was a full house. So i know her step father is a big liberal anti-gun type so i don't carry in his house i leave it in the car.
On this functions my brother in law "married to my wife's sister" and i were talking about playing paintball. After a couple of minuutes the father in law called my name and gave me the hand across the next gesture from across the room. At this point i thought we where being loud i was not happy with the gesture but i continued our conversation at a lower volume. At this point he gets up and tells me and the brother he want's to see us outside, we follow him and he starts going off saying "he has known three people that have died from guns and he will not allow guns to even be discussed in his house etc, etc". So with my tounge bleeding i went back inside told my wife to get her stuff and we left.
I decided it is his right to say what he wants in his house and its my right not to go back.
Well here we are months later the mother inlaw and wife have cried, bribed, and everything else to get me to come to these events i finally gave in on the Christmas holiday and the tension was pretty thick. Im not sure how where to go from here i stand on my beliefs but not wanting to be the "jerk" of my wife's family i ask wat would you do?