OC and the WIFE's reaction

[Denny347]

Hmmmmm, OC and **** off the wife or CC and keep her happy. This is a tough question?

 

[ATM]

Hmmmmm, OC and **** off the wife or CC and keep her happy. This is a tough question?

Not if one is capable of making their own sammiches.

 

[TheDude]

My grandfather had a saying: Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?

Sound advice for many, many topics.

 

[nakinate]

Not if one is capable of making their own sammiches.

I don't know too many married men capable of sammich making.

 

[Denny347]

I'd be a lost, hungry,and lonely man without my wife. She asks very little of me so I make sure I do what I can to keep her happy. She has no problem with you carrying concealed but doesn't like you to OC. BIG FRIGG'N WHOOP. Hide it and move on to a more pressing issue.

 

[ATM]

I'd be a lost, hungry,and lonely man without my wife. She asks very little of me so I make sure I do what I can to keep her happy. She has no problem with you carrying concealed but doesn't like you to OC. BIG FRIGG'N WHOOP. Hide it and move on to a more pressing issue.

Yeah, right. I wonder how many concealed carriers would say BIG FRIGG'N WHOOP and open carry just because their spouse didn't like them hiding their gun.

There are plenty of rational ways to make a spouse happy without the need to pander to every nonsensical whim.

 

[mainjet]

OP - Doesn't your hand have a backside to it? I suggest you use it.

Just kidding do not do this... Women hit back!

 

[Denny347]

Yeah, right. I wonder how many concealed carriers would say BIG FRIGG'N WHOOP and open carry just because their spouse didn't like them hiding their gun.

There are plenty of rational ways to make a spouse happy without the need to pander to every nonsensical whim.

How is that not rational? For example, my wife is very easy going and really asks little of me while cooking and taking care of the house/kids. I have a strange schedule so many weekends I'm working and it's just her and the kids, same with holidays...not a complaint from her. She supports me in everything I do. She doesn't like OC, then I don't OC. I respect her enough to accommodate the few requests she has...like not going to the local hootie bar...easy enough. This is very rational and she doesn't have "whims". It's not like she's asking me NOT to carry at all.

 

[churchmouse]

I'd be a lost, hungry,and lonely man without my wife. She asks very little of me so I make sure I do what I can to keep her happy. She has no problem with you carrying concealed but doesn't like you to OC. BIG FRIGG'N WHOOP. Hide it and move on to a more pressing issue.

Seems to be simple enough to me.

 

[churchmouse]

If my wife asks me not to OC....I just CC. Not worth burning any points I may have accumulated. How I carry is not as important as that I do.
I have never been big on OC but have on occasion and in the last year I have done it more. She does not like to draw attention when in public so I conform to her wishes. She asks so little else of me.
Pick your battles wisely. Life is way to short for dumb

 

[nakinate]

If my wife asks me not to OC....I just CC. Not worth burning any points I may have accumulated. How I carry is not as important as that I do.
I have never been big on OC but have on occasion and in the last year I have done it more. She does not like to draw attention when in public so I conform to her wishes. She asks so little else of me.
Pick your battles wisely. Life is way to short for dumb

Yup. I did it funny the people that say you should OC anyways. How you carry a gun isn't the most important thing in the world people...there is more important stuff in the world than that.

 

[GodFearinGunTotin]

If my wife asks me not to OC....I just CC. Not worth burning any points I may have accumulated. How I carry is not as important as that I do.
I have never been big on OC but have on occasion and in the last year I have done it more. She does not like to draw attention when in public so I conform to her wishes. She asks so little else of me.
Pick your battles wisely. Life is way to short for dumb

 

[churchmouse]

Yup. I did it funny the people that say you should OC anyways. How you carry a gun isn't the most important thing in the world people...there is more important stuff in the world than that.

Being a man does not equate to being "In charge" all the time.
I can say this with a clear knowledge of this fact. After 2 previous failed attempts at marriage I can see where I went wrong and being the "Do it anyway" guy was one of my failures.
Yup, go right ahead......

 

[EAS]

Not if one is capable of making their own sammiches.

Glad I can make my own sammiches and then some.

If my wife asks me not to OC....I just CC. Not worth burning any points I may have accumulated. How I carry is not as important as that I do.
I have never been big on OC but have on occasion and in the last year I have done it more. She does not like to draw attention when in public so I conform to her wishes. She asks so little else of me.
Pick your battles wisely. Life is way to short for dumb

Happy I don't work on a point system. I'd always be in the hole.

 

[public servant]

I'd always be in the hole.

And this is exactly what some of the guys are trying to ensure.

 

[Sgtusmc]

To the OP:

I think we've all been abject observers at one point or another. It's the same as being a back seat driver or second guessing your wife's observations while SHE's driving the car. It's give and gain.

While your focus is on the bigger picture, she is focusing in on the details of that picture. Each look and stare is reason enough for her to want to change the picture. I'm not saying OC is good or bad, but it is the picture you've chosen. Understand what it is that she objects to, counter each objection (in your own mind) with plausible yet positive rebuts and help her see the bigger picture. When the time comes to discuss the matter, don't destroy her. Win her over. Don't make her see things your way. Help her come to your conclusions.

At the same time, don't close off the TWO way communication. Give and gain!

 

[ilitical]

Luckily my permanent roommate understands my want to carry, whether CC or OC. Now my mother, she does not. She thinks someone will use it against me. I love her to death tho. Great lady, would never trade her!

 

[Lectric102002]

And this is exactly what some of the guys are trying to ensure.

I see what you did there.

 

[ilitical]

To the OP:

I think we've all been abject observers at one point or another. It's the same as being a back seat driver or second guessing your wife's observations while SHE's driving the car. It's give and gain.

While your focus is on the bigger picture, she is focusing in on the details of that picture. Each look and stare is reason enough for her to want to change the picture. I'm not saying OC is good or bad, but it is the picture you've chosen. Understand what it is that she objects to, counter each objection (in your own mind) with plausible yet positive rebuts and help her see the bigger picture. When the time comes to discuss the matter, don't destroy her. Win her over. Don't make her see things your way. Help her come to your conclusions.

At the same time, don't close off the TWO way communication. Give and gain!

Very well said! It's all in what you mean when you say "I do".

 

[LockStocksAndBarrel]

My wife prefers I OC but if yours doesn't, try printing the Open Carry Argument OP that ATM posted and have her give it a read. It may help.