Let me just share my experiances.
After I had my first child, I realized just how meaningfull life can be, when you have a little guy who just thinks you are totally awesome and wants to be just like you.
I cant imagine a day coming home, without hearing his voice glad to see me, show me what he did that day, and want me to sit next to him at the dinner table.
The kids push and shove to be the first one to show daddy their new picture, or toy or half eaten christmas cookie.
I dont just think, I KNOW my life would feel empty and meaningless without them.
Perhaps thats why people seem to be quick to judge your lifestyle as meaningless, because they simply couldnt imagine living it.
Having kids, or not having kids, is a decision that can only be made by you and your wife, and I am really not sure there is a right or wrong answer to it.
I do know, that I could not imagine ever being without my little man, and I hope to someday be as awesome as he already thinks I am.
So give us people who love kids a break if we come off judgemental, maybe we just have a hard time understanding a life without our pride and joy.
Carry on brother.
I'm sure I'm gonna be on my own with this one, but is there anyone out there that has chosen to not have kids? My wife and I are in our 30s and have chosen to not have kids, people seem to find this hard to believe. And why do I always get pressure to have kids? I never try and pressure people to not have kids... It is just something we feel we don't need to do, and don't want to do. This is stemming from a crappy Christmas get together gone south. I always feel like my sister thinks we aren't good enough, and our time isn't important because we don't have kids. Like the rest of the family should revolve around them because they have kids and we must do nothing because we don't have kids.
I guess for me, I just see so many people "abandon" everyone else in life the second they start having children.
I guess for me, I just see so many people "abandon" everyone else in life the second they start having children. My wife and I have ran 3 small businesses together, but recently have cut that down to 2 because we needed some more free time. You can say our work, our businesses are our "babies."
My mother is in her 70s now, and doesn't like to drive. I have taken MANY days away from my business and customers to take my mom down to see my sister, which is about a 6 hour drive round trip. My sister has never once picked my mom up or brought her home. And if my mom doesn't want to go see her (and in my eyes, she's 71 years old, she's entitled to do whatever she wants whenever she wants), my sister gives her a guilt trip about not spending enough time together. It sucks not having your time and/or feelings considered, and yesterday was the icing on the cake for me. I probably won't be talking to my sister for a looooooooong time after yesterday, but I had to tell her exactly how I felt about all this crap over the years. I'm sure in her eyes I'm the one being selfish.
I absolutely love my kids and 90% of the time I'm very my wife and I had them but I would be a total and complete liar to say I haven't day dreamed about life without them or had we stopped at 1 instead of 2.
I wonder how many other guys with kids day dream about life without?
Before my wife and I started trying to get pregnant, I said we should adopt a 17 1/2 year old and give them the boot at 18. Then we could enjoy the grandkids and send them home when we got our fill. She wasn't too hip to that idea.
I know people who never had kids and wish they did. I don't know anyone who has kids and wish they didn't. I feel bad for you, OP. You don't know the greatest joy in life.
Since we're on the subject, responsible people not breeding contributes to the downfall of this nation.
When I grow up I don't want to get married or have kids. Also it would be kinda hard to find a wife because I'm catholic and the whole Catholics can't marry Non Catholics thing