The biggest thing is not to become someone you are not during courtship because is you eventually want to get back to normal, she will feel like you tricked her. Women need to remember that too. I told the truth on personal boundries drams and goals early in the dating experience. She kept dating me and we are still married. Anytime the subject comes up, I can realistically recount my first statements and remind her I have not broken those promises or vows.