Gf switched off

[burt gummer]

So lastnight me and my gf had a big fight, she suffers from depression so she has been awake all night drinking while I sleep for work, I come home after and she hasn't slept just drank about 30 beers and been chatting of this self help site 7cups of tea, everything is fine I bring her a ride home from work to be sweet and all is good, then she gets in tears over a friend at work she helped and then he turns into a jerk to her and she is crying I tell her not to let this a hole win and don't let it bother her but it doesn't work so I get dinner and she is still upset I aske her to talk to me about it and she won't because she says that I tell my family about her emotions and they "blow it out of per portion" so I say I haven't said anything to them and my family loves her and she goes off on how they judge her? Which they don't so idk what she is saying, she screaming at me all this time while I stay calm and then she switches to our political view and says that I think she is retarded cause I like some of trumps views and she likes Clinton so I wonder how this has to do with us? And she starts packing her bag and yelling at me and cussing me out and at one point calls me a ***** and gets in my face and says hit me like the other guys do, I have never and will never strike a woman, and she goes on mocking me So after that she goes off and I take her home and the drive back was great she cranks up the radio and I turn it down she cusses me out so Keep driving while being deaf, and then she throws her nail polish bottle at my window lucky for her she doesn't break it or she have a long way to walk home, so we get home she slams my door I get out and tell her I just want to talk she comes at me ready to hit me I restrain her wrists and I'll say this if she has hit me I would have no regrets having her arrested let her spend some time in jail, her mom tells me to leave and her get inside and yes she is still very drunk so I leave head home. So that was my fun time with my gf so depressing and alcohol don't mix so who knows what she will do and from what she said we are done and it's my fault? She said, I think she needs to see a specialist and be on some kind of medicine maybe she is bi polar or something. So any opinions would help I'm just venting and angry and upset

 

[HoughMade]

Now you know.

Get out of this relationship and don't look back.

 

[Cameramonkey]

Now you know.

Get out of this relationship and don't look back.

Seconded. Been there, done that. Save the drama for her mama.

Good luck.

 

[SEIndSAM]

Seconded. Been there, done that. Save the drama for her mama.

Good luck.

Yep, life is too short to waste it with crazy people...

And for Gods sake, keep your pecker to yourself and don't get her knocked up.....Then you will be dealing with crazy another 19 years...

 

[hoosierdoc]

talk to her family about the help she needs, as you end all ties

 

[burt gummer]

@hoosierdoc she only has her mom and she doesn't tell her mom anything about how she feels, I'm going to try if I can talk to her mom about her and try to get her help but who knows what will happen, I just hope she doesn't try and hurt herself

 

[voidsherpa]

Depending on how much time you have invested, either get her the help she needs or bail.

 

[CindyE]

She is probably miserable and needs help, but you can easily lose yourself in that type of relationship, and end up with anxiety and depression yourself.

 

[pudly]

It sucks, but there is just too much wrong there. Break it off.

 

[phylodog]

There is enough drama in that one post for me to end a 20 year relationship. Run dude, just run. There's a reason people cut bad parachutes away rather than trying to fix them.

 

[burt gummer]

If she doesn't want help then I will run always and she can live happily alone w her mom, oh more info she is 30 no car or license and no savings account so,

 

[printcraft]

Excuses for bad behavior. Sounds like a brat.

 

[mikebol]

My wife went through a pretty bad bout of depression and a psychologist was able to really help her. Yes, she's now medicated and MUCH happier and has such a better outlook on life. Encourage her to seek professional help regardless of your intentions to love her or leave her.

Mike

 

[chezuki]

Marry her.

[video=youtube_share;UJ6pLKlU-8Q]http://youtu.be/UJ6pLKlU-8Q[/video]

 

[churchmouse]

@hoosierdoc she only has her mom and she doesn't tell her mom anything about how she feels, I'm going to try if I can talk to her mom about her and try to get her help but who knows what will happen, I just hope she doesn't try and hurt herself

Regardless of what who or where life is far to short. Help if you can but tying your horse to this wagon will be a long long road.

Oh....if she can pound 30 beers you should already be looking for an escape route.

 

[printcraft]

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Marry her.

 

[churchmouse]

Marry her.

[video=youtube_share;UJ6pLKlU-8Q]http://youtu.be/UJ6pLKlU-8Q[/video]

Yeah.....I know her. And her cousin.

 

[snorko]

I know it is likely difficult for you to believe, but I understand EXACTLY what you are going through. I could match you story for story and include a totaled car from being run off the road. It can easily escalate. You would never hit a woman, nor would I. But holding wrists and restraining her can look really bad from the outside.

As other have said, get out of the relationship, put as much space between you and her as you can and do NOT allow yourself to be overwhelmed with guilt. For many years I dogged myself for "abandoning her" but finally came to realize that no good I could do would be accepted by her and it was only hurting me.

Severe depression is a horrible thing to deal with both for the person suffering and those affected by it.

 

[Bill of Rights]

Lots of advice here. I'll add to the "dogpile"... GTFO while you can and for God's sake, don't stick your "richard" in crazy any more than you may have already done.

Let her look back at the relationship as you being "the one that got away".
YOU look back at the relationship as the bullet you dodged.

Blessings,
Bill

 

[HoughMade]

talk to her family about the help she needs, as you end all ties

Good point. She needs help.

Call me old-fashioned, but I've always looked at dating as a means to determine whether I wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone or not. As I bluntly put earlier, if it were me, there is no way I would sign on for that with her. You are not married. It's a good time to do what you can to get her help while moving on.

The time to NOT leave is when you've been married for a few years and have kids to think about. Take the hints. Move on. No one is perfect, but there are a whole lot of women who are not broken and not this kind of needy. You are not going to be the hero who makes everything right for her.