Bung you might see if some of the INGO members would be nice enough to meet you at the range and let you shoot their XDM or 1911.
"More ammo capacity" = fat grip. OP has small hands.. READ. I also have short fingers. I have both an XD and a 1911. Both are dependable, but I shoot the 1911 way better, because it fits my hands. For smaller hands, the slim grip of a 1911 is great. Just go hold one. Shoot one if possible. By one, and if you're not happy with it, I'll trade you for my XD.
The 1911 .45 is the answer to the question "What would Jesus carry?"
Excuse me, Amen.
The best advice Bung, is don't go into the hole buying pistols.......