I’m p*ssed at the POS that vandalized my van but I am also p*ssed at my friend. I feel my friend is partly to blame for not ignoring the POS to begin with.
Let me state that I had no prior issue with the POS that did this. Although I open carry, he would often make obscene gestures at me or mouth obscenities to me but for the most part I ignored him.
My friend doesn’t think I have any reason to be mad. My friend chose to argue with me right after this happened about what my insurance coverage was and what the best tires are. WTF…….. When I try to vent or just throw out scenarios that would make me happy I get lectures & BS from my friend.
The final one is a gender difference. From the way this is written, I assume the friend is a man. Men are fixers, not listeners. Unless we've been "trained" we don't think the same as woman and don't view venting as venting, we view it as a problem to be solved. You just want someone to listen and sympathize when you say "Julie at work is a gossiping ogre and she steals people's sandwiches from the refrigerator. No one likes her." What you want is "Wow, sorry you have to deal with Julie." What a man hears is a problem and his answer is going to be on how to stop her from stealing sandwiches. In this case its also a control issue. He can't control what happened to your van, but he still needs to be able to show his concern for the situation, plus show he has some control. Hence his desire/arguing over seeing you get what he views as the best tires.
I wouldn't pin the blame on my friend for this, he had no control over the loser who did it. Yes, he may have provoked the guy but at the same time consider he has to live near this person. If I had a neighbor like that I'd let them know what I think of them, too. As far as the vandalism I'd definitely be PO'd about that beyond belief.
I have to admit that karma wouldn't take care of the heroin addict if that were my van. A Louisville slugger to his kneecaps would, however, and he wouldn't know it was me. If you can't catch him, surely he has a car he'd hate to see vandalized. As far as your friend goes, he should let you vent although keep in mind it's not him you should be angry with. And as far as the dog, it's a beagle. Rekindle the bond with that dog!
Why does that guy hate you so much to do that to your mini-van ??? As for your friend, your friend should stand up for you & understand that you were victimized by that addict
I understand what she is saying. She needs to vent about it and be allowed to vent about it unhindered and it sounds like her friend never gave her that chance. Sometimes a friend just shuts their mouth and lets their friend ramble on for a bit.
I whole-heartedly agree with this. My wife hates it when I try to offer solutions to things she's venting about. I learned a long time ago that we're both happier if I pretend to listen and she just gets it off of her chest.
I want to vent, I want to imagine and discuss fun scenarios of what I would like to have happen to the addict. It's fun to pretend. My friend won't let me. Anytime I try he lectures me for it.
Feel free to PM me anytime hun, we can talk about fun ways for people to meet their demise or other ghastly events.
Not sure he does. I think it is more of a statement to my friend. My friend lives in a 4 unit apt building, the addict ran the other two tenants out. They moved out a few days before I was vandalized. The addict has made statements to my friend that he needs to move out. My friend needs to put up or shut up. .............
Who owns the apartment building? Does the landlord know about this behavior? Does the landlord know why he is losing tenants?