I was at local shop and my buddy was getting Defensive ammo for his XD40 and I was curious what he recommended in 45 ACP for defensive use. Im not sure why but I did. He asks what am I using now and what kind of gun (Odd questions)(185gr +P in my XDM 45) he said basically that the 185 is inferior to a plain 230gr JHP!!!! Is there any merit to this or am I wrong thinking a +P load is superior. I need a scholar to explain!!!!!