My friend, no son can win the argument of reason.
You must win him over with the argument of responsibility.
Get signed up for a class. Your dad is worried that you will do something foolhardy. Prove him wrong with responsibility.
Like I said, i'm 19, and most kids(yes, i reffered to myself as a kid, contrary to popular belief, I don't think I know everything. In fact, quite the opposite) my age aren't mature enough to own and handle a gun in a responsible manner. It's also up for debate that the age to recieve a drivers liscense should be raised, which i'm also all for. But my point is, though it seems like the majority of kids my age are immature little brats without respect, there are a few good apples out there. And i'd like to believe that I am one of them. I guess I should have clarified my intentions on persuading my dad's opinion. I want his approval because he has always been a good father to me and I have earned his respect in many different situations. Therefore he also has my respect.I think you should start by trying to understand, THEN, maybe, try to be understood or sway him. Find out what it is that he doesn't like about it. Don't guess. Talk about it. I'm a father of a 20-year old boy/young man. I see some of you saying "man", and that might be the case, but there are plenty of 19-20s who are clearly "boys" and not ready for carrying a gun, IMHO. I'm here, I'm a gun lover, I carry most of the time. I joined the Marine Corps at 17 and fully understand that 17-year olds carry guns and fight wars. I collect them, I shoot them, I carry them, I fondle them, and I've raised my sons around them... and I would not want my 20-year old son carrying a gun right now.
I know, you can throw all of the reason and logic you want around, but the bottom line is my feeling, as his father, as the one man in this group who has known him for 20 years, that there's more RISK in his having a gun on him today than there is REWARD. I can't quantify the chance that he'll legitimately need one, or the chance that a situation that might have otherwise been resolved with an argument or a fistfight or the exchange of medium-sized puff-pastries would turn into something bad because there was a gun in play... I can only go with my gut feeling, as his father, and today, that is "no, I'm not in favor of it, yet." Can't stop him, without a doubt, but I'm not there. How would *I* get there? More training would certainly help, but part of it is simply maturity and responsibility. I'm absolutely certain that HE would say he's plenty mature, responsible, and ready. Me, I'm just not quite there.
In any case, my point is only that you try to understand his concerns first, THEN decide whether to sway him, ignore him, or maybe even listen to him, if he happens to have legitimate concerns. The fact that you care about his approval tells me that either he's been a reasonably good dad, or you just really want our support in proving him wrong... I'm assuming the former.
Good luck.
I want his approval because he has always been a good father to me and I have earned his respect in many different situations. Therefore he also has my respect.
I think you should tell your dad that you are not going to Carry yet because you wish to honor his wishes. Keep in mind that he has your best interests at heart. You can still get your LTCH. It lasts a lifetime. Maybe get a target weapon and see if you can spark some interest with your dad. Just don't carry yet.
I honestly wasn't planning on carrying to the store or just driving around anyway. Atleast not at first. My main concern was home defense(we also have been having a series of break-ins in our neighborhood lately) and getting familiar with guns/target shooting.I think you should tell your dad that you are not going to Carry yet because you wish to honor his wishes. Keep in mind that he has your best interests at heart. You can still get your LTCH. It lasts a lifetime. Maybe get a target weapon and see if you can spark some interest with your dad. Just don't carry yet.
Great advice. I think the best bet for me is going along with my business. Because, in the end, actions speak louder than words.I think you sound like you have a level head on your shoulders; but, like other members have said, you're still his little boy in his eyes.
I was lucky; I was raised by a Marine who joined the service when he was 17, and served 20 years. I was brought up learning about guns, and all things related to them. Gun safety was always stressed, and I took all those lessons to heart. I was shooting from something like 7 years old; got my first pistol, (not counting rifles,) at 15, I believe. It was a target pistol, a Ruger Mark III. Dad taught me to shoot it.
3 years later, when I bought my .45 for daily carry, we took it home, and I asked him "so, are you going to come out and teach me to shoot a REAL pistol now?" He responded "I already did."
He's never had a problem with me carrying; I was lucky in that respect. The very first time I carried, he said "Be careful out there." Beyond that, he just knows that he trained me well, and he trusts me to carry responsibly and safely.
Its that trust you need; I second the idea that you should try to get him to go and take a gun-safety course with you. Even if its just a "don't point this end at yourself" class designed for 4 year olds; if he'll go with you, it will help.
And even if you carry without his "approval," he's not going to love you any less. He may disagree, and it may cause a couple of tense moments, but once he sees that you've gone 3, 6, 9, 12 months without anything bad happening...he'll come around.
What would really work is if you saved him/your mother/grandmother from a murderer with a firearm....thats not really a "likely" occurrence though, (I hope not, at least,) so you'll probably have to win him over gradually.
there is good advice for u on this post. but this video trumps them all. u cannot depend on leo, u have to protect yourself. i'm also a dad, having said that, dont disappoint him. you and your dad go to training offer to pay for it if need be. go slow and good luck.This video is on one of the 2nd ammendment blogs.
But it is very convinsing on the need to be able to carry firearms.
But also get some training.
YouTube - Suzanna Gratia Hupp explains meaning of 2nd Amendment!