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Do you feel obligated to offer up a little something for a favor?
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femurphy77
Grandmaster
Had this rule with my ex, 'cause she always trashed it out. I swear I saw something move in the console one day after she used it.
I always tell someone 2 things if they borrow a vehicle. Even if I'm helping & driving. 1: They fill the tank to the same level they got it in. 2: they are responsible for any damages. Even if I'm helping them and driving, they still need to put gas in it. Otherwise, they always have the option to go rent a vehicle if it's that important.
My uncle taught me something years ago that works in pretty much every situation.
If someone wants to borrow some money, your truck,etc.etc.,let them borrow it"ONCE" if they don't pay you back , or in your case, don't refill the tank, then you simply and calmly refuse them any favor in the future,reminding them that you loaned them something in the past and untill that is repaid you couldn't consider loaning them anything else.
I've used his method a few times in the past,and usually you get repaid, only once did the man get mad, and then he wouldn't speak to me and I considered it good ridance.
If someone wants to borrow some money, your truck,etc.etc.,let them borrow it"ONCE" if they don't pay you back , or in your case, don't refill the tank, then you simply and calmly refuse them any favor in the future,reminding them that you loaned them something in the past and untill that is repaid you couldn't consider loaning them anything else.
I've used his method a few times in the past,and usually you get repaid, only once did the man get mad, and then he wouldn't speak to me and I considered it good ridance.
kickbacked
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- Jan 12, 2010
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i have 2 trucks right now, as you can imagine i get asked all the time to loan them out. I have no problem with it at all as long as they are a friend. Certain friends return them washed and detailed with a full tank, some just a full tank and others i dont ask anything as i know they are in a ruff spot. I have only refused to help somebody move once, and that was because he had a truck but didnt want to get salt on it so he asked me. I thought that was pretty rude and refused. Ive found the best way to combat the issue if your helping people like "bill" out, is to say right up front ," im running short on cash, so unless you can pay for gas i wont be able to help"
Wild Deuce
Master
- Dec 2, 2009
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My father told me that if I ever had to borrow another man's car, I should bring it back with a full tank of gas, vacuumed out and washed. That way, the person knows I respect his property and will gladly allow me another opportunity, if needed.
If the guy doesn't do you an favors, isn't poor but drives at your gas without refilling, then he is a leach. Tell him no next time.
What a selfish prick. I can't even fathom doing something like that.
I have a hard time asking for favors though. The only people I ask are my close friends and we'll do pretty much anything for each other so it's no sweat.
What a selfish prick. I can't even fathom doing something like that.
I have a hard time asking for favors though. The only people I ask are my close friends and we'll do pretty much anything for each other so it's no sweat.
Here's what I would do. I'd make sure that truck had just enough gas to get halfway to Bill's house, the next time he called you for a ride. I then would call Bill, explain the situation, and ask him if he could help a buddy out with a little gas.
Better take your own can.
Just in case.
Here's what I would do. I'd make sure that truck had just enough gas to get halfway to Bill's house, the next time he called you for a ride. I then would call Bill, explain the situation, and ask him if he could help a buddy out with a little gas.
Better take your own can.
Bill lives like 300 feet from my house. Darn the luck as I love that idea!
This^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
If he was desperate and needed the help with no return it should have been part of the asking. With fuel at $4 per this is not something to be blown off. If this is a repeat of an established behavior then "Bill" needs to be removed from your phone log. Have had to release more than a few folks from my phone log in the last few years.
If you offer up your truck then stipulations need to be attached. Sucks to have to do this but some folks just take advantage. This is JMHO from my own experience.
Just read he is family. That is even worse.
If I took your truck it would be full when returned if just to cover the miles I drove it plus the gas.
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I could care about the miles... Its a 14 year old truck, and Im going to keep it til the doors fall off, then I will likely weld up something to make it a Zombie-Slayer.. The point is at 13 mpg, Hes killing my wallet... Just frustrates me I guess.
It is the the point I stress, cover the good will you put forth by filling up the truck. My brother did this to me years ago. It took him a long time to remove my boot print from his rear end.
When you do the Zombie killer conversion we expect to see pics.
hoosierdoc
Freed prisoner
This same guy asked my friend Monica for a favor one time. It did NOT end well for her
Unless "Bill" is dad, I'd just refuse. If it was dad (in my case, I'd refuse) I'd say something about returning it with at least the same amount of gas that he burned. If it was a cousin/brother/uncle and they refused to put gas in it, I'd either kneecap them and be done with them or kneecap them and keep them tied up in the basement for a few weeks to torture them.
CountryBoy19
Grandmaster
Same here, I have a friend that borrows my truck every once in a while. It ALWAYS comes back with more gas than it had when it left; I actually feel like I owe him for the last time. It left with 1/4 tank and came back with 3/4.
My general philosophy on loaning things out is... "I don't loan anything that I absolutely can't give up". In this case it would be both the gas and the truck.
So when things like this happen, I can just hope that he needed it more than I did. So if done to excess, the tables are turned, and since I can no longer give it up, it won't be loaned out.
Of course, this philosophy by definition necessarily precludes the loan of the wife, daughter, grandaughter, and/or the last gun in the safe.
So when things like this happen, I can just hope that he needed it more than I did. So if done to excess, the tables are turned, and since I can no longer give it up, it won't be loaned out.
Of course, this philosophy by definition necessarily precludes the loan of the wife, daughter, grandaughter, and/or the last gun in the safe.
I know an elderly man who lost his wife several months ago. He was injured recently in a fall, but still can do many things for himself. He isn't rich, by any means, but he can afford to pay his own way and then some. His neighbors (husband and wife) have provided him many home cooked meals and recently mowed his lawn. He hasn't given back anything to them except a verbal thank you. They don't expect anything in return, but I think it is poor form for the elderly man not to at least send a thank you card, flowers or gift card.
If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, then you are. If you want to be generous and help out somebody repeatedly, without expecting anything in return, then you aren't being taken advantage of.
I really don't mind helping someone out who is in need. If I feel like I'm being a patsy, then I'm not shy about asking for gas money, etc.
If you feel like you are being taken advantage of, then you are. If you want to be generous and help out somebody repeatedly, without expecting anything in return, then you aren't being taken advantage of.
I really don't mind helping someone out who is in need. If I feel like I'm being a patsy, then I'm not shy about asking for gas money, etc.
