UPDATE...
So I've been doing alot of soul searching this week(between crying and being mad). After talking wih friends and family on both side who has seen everything the last few years I have realized I am ok. Yes I'm very heartbroken but over the situation, but looking foward to moving on.
My wife never did give me the mutual respect that a loving wife should, she treated me more like a hired hand or a borrowed mule. I just went along with it because I got too wrapped up in having a hot trophy wife to show off and didn't like to argue.
We always had issue's over my stepson too. I loved him from the start and had a great connection with him. The problem was she told me to treat him as my own (it just had to coincide with the way she wanted him treated) We would butt heads over stuff all the time, little things, I didn't like him listening to "dirty" music or watching TV inapropriate for a kid or being a smarta$$ and backtalking. She let him do whatever he wanted. So she told him to act a certain way around me but not around her.
Looking at it now This should be the best way out, the circumstances should keep me from wanting back in something that wasn't very healthy anyway.
Thankyou everyone for the advice and kind words, its been a tough week but I'm doing alot better now.
So I've been doing alot of soul searching this week(between crying and being mad). After talking wih friends and family on both side who has seen everything the last few years I have realized I am ok. Yes I'm very heartbroken but over the situation, but looking foward to moving on.
My wife never did give me the mutual respect that a loving wife should, she treated me more like a hired hand or a borrowed mule. I just went along with it because I got too wrapped up in having a hot trophy wife to show off and didn't like to argue.
We always had issue's over my stepson too. I loved him from the start and had a great connection with him. The problem was she told me to treat him as my own (it just had to coincide with the way she wanted him treated) We would butt heads over stuff all the time, little things, I didn't like him listening to "dirty" music or watching TV inapropriate for a kid or being a smarta$$ and backtalking. She let him do whatever he wanted. So she told him to act a certain way around me but not around her.
Looking at it now This should be the best way out, the circumstances should keep me from wanting back in something that wasn't very healthy anyway.
Thankyou everyone for the advice and kind words, its been a tough week but I'm doing alot better now.