The Glock 22 is great for carry, home defense and competition. The gun I usually choose for training classes I take is my Glock 22 (which is also my night stand gun)--the Glock 35 basically is a competition and tactical carry weapon and therefore has limited uses--I sold my Glock 35 (a great...
The savage 10FP is great right out of the box and is affordable--(many used ones on the market as well) The remington 700 is fantastic also with great out of the box accuracy--I own both but shoot the remington most of the time.
Maybe the Kahr cw9, Glock 26 or a SW J frame .38--In my opinion the pm9 does not offer much to hang on to so the cw9 with the longer grip may be a better choice--if you go with the SW J frame she could change to larger grips and increase controlability. If she carrys the weapon in her purse the...