M&P, Glock 17, or Glock 19. Since you don't want a Glock, I guess that leaves the M&P.
I would do a lot of reading on the XD before considering one. Look for the opinions and experiences of well respected trainers like Todd Louis Green, Pat Roger, Ken Hackathorn, Larry Vickers, and others. I suspect there will be a fair amount of feedback from people like them.
I would do a lot of reading on the XD before considering one. Look for the opinions and experiences of well respected trainers like Todd Louis Green, Pat Roger, Ken Hackathorn, Larry Vickers, and others. I suspect there will be a fair amount of feedback from people like them.