I hate the thought of government assistance and welfare and I swore I'd never take hand outs.Now I have a family and am starting to realize that my pride is going to have to take a hit.My wife and son and myself live with my parents and brother and having only one room to ourselves and to store all of our things is cramping my style,my marriage,and my claustrophobia.Most of the carpet in our trailer is ruined from years of not-so-well trained dogs and other aspects of living.I love my parents and the last place I want to be is away from them but I'm starting to think that the nest just isn't going to hold us much longer.
My obvious first concern is money.I only make $11.88/hr for 40hrs/week and my wife only makes $7.25/hr for ~20hrs/week.We have two car payments and a handful of other bills plus the costs of raising a child.We would absolutely have to have SNAP and probably go through the HUD program to even find a place.I know that I can't stand the thought of an apartment so it'd have to be at least a trailer or small house.Prefer not to live in city limits due to the lifestyle of freedom that I've grown up with.Anyone gone through this before?
My second concern is the process.How do I go about it?I don't want to get myself into a hole that I can't get out of.
My third concern is telling my parents.I'm trying to put my family in a better situation.My parents have never had money but they always gave us kids everything they possibly could so I want them to understand that I'm not leaving because they can't give us enough,just because we are wanting more.Any parents that have gone through this that can offer advice on how to break it to them?
I am,of course,going to do my own research but I was just seeing if anyone here could offer any pointers.
My obvious first concern is money.I only make $11.88/hr for 40hrs/week and my wife only makes $7.25/hr for ~20hrs/week.We have two car payments and a handful of other bills plus the costs of raising a child.We would absolutely have to have SNAP and probably go through the HUD program to even find a place.I know that I can't stand the thought of an apartment so it'd have to be at least a trailer or small house.Prefer not to live in city limits due to the lifestyle of freedom that I've grown up with.Anyone gone through this before?
My second concern is the process.How do I go about it?I don't want to get myself into a hole that I can't get out of.
My third concern is telling my parents.I'm trying to put my family in a better situation.My parents have never had money but they always gave us kids everything they possibly could so I want them to understand that I'm not leaving because they can't give us enough,just because we are wanting more.Any parents that have gone through this that can offer advice on how to break it to them?
I am,of course,going to do my own research but I was just seeing if anyone here could offer any pointers.