Basically breaking it down like this benny... guy cant have kids, feels he is being unsuccessful in husband roles because he can't be a father, me explaining that I understand how he may feel about raising a child that is not his, and expressing that a father is not a biological act so much as it standing up and taking responsibility of an adorable child that calls you daddy. Then VaGriller trolled a bit, i blew my top that was already boiling, sent a pm to scutter, feel a little better for some of the comments made, feeling worse because I misdirected my anger so poorly, and now trying to explain the ramblings of I.
OK, so you do have friends that can't conceive a child and you are trying to get the husband to understand that just because he isn't the "sperm donor" doesn't mean he can't be the Father...And you are using personal experience with this because you are the Father of a child that doesn't match your DNA?
Sorry if these questions are obvious, but I was(maybe still am?) completely lost.