Friend's mom murdered

[00BlasterResto]

South Bend Tribune: Shooting deaths of New Carlisle couple being investigated
Here is the news article, Lisa 'martin' Simeri was the mother of a freind of mine. She leaves behind 3 sons the youngest of which I have known since elementry school. I have not heard from him since this happened Saturday.
This will obviously be very hard on the family, A very good freind of us both is attempting to contact him and I have asked that he express condolences for both of us, as I don't want to bug him during this time of grieving.
The victims son is a very nice guy, but also a very touph, slightly off the handle sort and I hope he will be able to keep it together and get past this tragedy.

 

[RachelMarie]

Wow. Prayers sent. Hope the bast#$%# are caught.

 

[Mokkie]

Stand with your friend in this tough time. He needs a strong friend. Prayers sent.

 

[HandK]

How sad, I am sorry to hear of your friends loss, prayers sent.

 

[Expat]

It was most likely a murder/suicide: South Bend Tribune: Wife's death ruled a homicide

Tragic situation. Prayers out to all left behind.

 

[00BlasterResto]

Thanks for the prayers guys, Yes it was apparently her husband "freinds stepdad" killed her and then himself. I am more familiar with his dad, who lived closer to my neck of the woods.

 

[wtfd661]

Prayers sent

 

[CSK22]

killed her and then himself.

What a loser.


Will be praying for all effected by the situation that they can move on, and grow stronger because of what they have experienced.

 

[longbow]

Prayers sent

Keep em talking!

Years back a friend of mine had his sister and her husband murdered........Never found out who did it, and that would drive me crazy.............

 

[EvilleDoug]

If he is a "good" friend, then you wont be bugging him, find him and give him someone he knows to lean on.

 

[Benny]

South Bend Tribune: Shooting deaths of New Carlisle couple being investigated
Here is the news article, Lisa 'martin' Simeri was the mother of a freind of mine. She leaves behind 3 sons the youngest of which I have known since elementry school. I have not heard from him since this happened Saturday.
This will obviously be very hard on the family, A very good freind of us both is attempting to contact him and I have asked that he express condolences for both of us, as I don't want to bug him during this time of grieving.
The victims son is a very nice guy, but also a very touph, slightly off the handle sort and I hope he will be able to keep it together and get past this tragedy.

Dude, get a hold of your friend. One of the last people that he'd ever want to see pass just died...He needs all the comfort he can get. If he is anywhere near being a "close" friend, you need to be there.

Not only do you need to be by his side right now, but here in a few days(after the funeral) you need to be calling him up and asking him if he wants to hang out...The last thing he needs is to sit there by himself dwelling on this horrible situation.

Go see a movie, play a video game, hang out, etc; anything to keep his mind off of it. Make him laugh.

It will get better over time and good friends/family will help him get through the "now."

 

[jclark]

Dude, get a hold of your friend. One of the last people that he'd ever want to see pass just died...He needs all the comfort he can get. If he is anywhere near being a "close" friend, you need to be there.

Not only do you need to be by his side right now, but here in a few days(after the funeral) you need to be calling him up and asking him if he wants to hang out...The last thing he needs is to sit there by himself dwelling on this horrible situation.

Go see a movie, play a video game, hang out, etc; anything to keep his mind off of it. Make him laugh.

It will get better over time and good friends/family will help him get through the "now."

Good post Joe.
Prayers sent.

 

[Expat]

Dude, get a hold of your friend. One of the last people that he'd ever want to see pass just died...He needs all the comfort he can get. If he is anywhere near being a "close" friend, you need to be there.

Not only do you need to be by his side right now, but here in a few days(after the funeral) you need to be calling him up and asking him if he wants to hang out...The last thing he needs is to sit there by himself dwelling on this horrible situation.

Go see a movie, play a video game, hang out, etc; anything to keep his mind off of it. Make him laugh.

It will get better over time and good friends/family will help him get through the "now."

Few things have been truer and better written. Great advice.

 

[Bapak2ja]

South Bend Tribune: Shooting deaths of New Carlisle couple being investigated
A very good freind of us both is attempting to contact him and I have asked that he express condolences for both of us, as I don't want to bug him during this time of grieving.

CALL HIM. A friend called me at the precise moment the medical personnel stopped CPR on my daughter. I have not forgotten my friend's concern when I told him, "She's gone." I could not talk long as I had to help my wife and sons deal with this. But it was a great help to know my friend cared. I really appreciated the call at that moment. Call you friend. Talk to him. He needs you now more than ever before. CALL HIM.

 

[drgnrobo]

Im sorry to hear of the loss of your friends mother, my family prayers go out for you & the family involved .Be there for your freind

 

[mk2ja]

Dude, get a hold of your friend. One of the last people that he'd ever want to see pass just died...He needs all the comfort he can get. If he is anywhere near being a "close" friend, you need to be there.

Not only do you need to be by his side right now, but here in a few days(after the funeral) you need to be calling him up and asking him if he wants to hang out...The last thing he needs is to sit there by himself dwelling on this horrible situation.

Go see a movie, play a video game, hang out, etc; anything to keep his mind off of it. Make him laugh.

It will get better over time and good friends/family will help him get through the "now."

I think the tendency is to think, "I don't want to get in the way by calling during this time." But from first-hand experience (see below, that was my sister bapak2ja mentioned, and I had similar experiences from my friends), it is incredibly encouraging to have friends calling and offering whatever they can. The offer may never be taken up, but it means a lot to have even been offered.

There's a country song out called "The Call" (click here, it is the first one in the list) that pretty much says the same thing, too. Make the call.

CALL HIM. A friend called me at the precise moment the medical personnel stopped CPR on my daughter. I have not forgotten my friend's concern when I told him, "She's gone." I could not talk long as I had to help my wife and sons deal with this. But it was a great help to know my friend cared. I really appreciated the call at that moment. Call you friend. Talk to him. He needs you now more than ever before. CALL HIM.

 

[Soundslikejosh]

If he is a "good" friend, then you wont be bugging him, find him and give him someone he knows to lean on.

This.

A good friend of mine, his father died completely unexpectedly at age 53. I thought the same thing "Oh, I don't want to bother him." I couldn't have been more wrong- he needed friends to help hold him up through his difficult time. If you are close, seek him out and indicate your willingness to stay or go, whatever he prefers.

 

[Cygnus]

Like others have said. If he's a friend call him.
Sorry for their loss. Sounds like a tough situation.

 

[garagegunmaker]

Prayers sent to the family.