Without going into details, when do you guys call it quits and get a divorce?
Without going into details, when do you guys call it quits and get a divorce?
Damn, I really hope that you are asking for advice to give to a friend since you just had a new addition to the family ~a week ago, but if not I'll just say that emotions run high around this time and you shouldn't call it quits just yet.
Without details (assuming the baby IS yours), I suggest you give it more time and see if things calm down.
I must have missed this announcement, but know this: if you call it quits, you're not just walking out on a marriage, you're walking out on your responsibility to your child(ren).
My personal take is this: (and this only applies when children are involved), unless there's physical or mental abuse (though not specifically abuse, a spouse that is just plain poison for all involved is included in this category) or cheating, then the parents need to be the adults they are and put their children first. I know it's an unpopular opinion, but divorce for any other reason is pure selfishness.
Of course, I've been on the receiving end of the "I want out" discussion, and it was about 2 weeks after #2 was born. I might be a little biased.
As long as you consider it an option, you will sabotage any attempt to salvage what you have. Keep that in mind.
I ask this rhetorically because I don't want you to answer it, I just want you to consider the question: Where did you take your marriage oath and what's that oath worth to you?
You asked, that's my answer.
I must have missed this announcement, but know this: if you call it quits, you're not just walking out on a marriage, you're walking out on your responsibility to your child(ren).
My personal take is this: (and this only applies when children are involved), unless there's physical or mental abuse (though not specifically abuse, a spouse that is just plain poison for all involved is included in this category) or cheating, then the parents need to be the adults they are and put their children first. I know it's an unpopular opinion, but divorce for any other reason is pure selfishness.
Of course, I've been on the receiving end of the "I want out" discussion, and it was about 2 weeks after #2 was born. I might be a little biased.
As long as you consider it an option, you will sabotage any attempt to salvage what you have. Keep that in mind.
My parent's thought it would be best to stay together, so they did that. Unfortunately, they couldn't even remain civil. It was non stop yelling if they were within 8 feet of each other everyday. When I was 16, I asked them to please get a divorce. Seeing both of them unhappy all the time was far worse than seeing one or the other sometimes and seeing them both happy. .